Post # 1
Back before I even thought about being married I thought the show Everybody Loves Raymond was pretty funny. Now, with future in laws of my own I can definitely relate more…
FI and I spent the weekend out of town and asked if his parents could feed the cats. Well, they interpretted that as heading over right after we left town, feeding the cats, cleaning the house, doing yard work, FFIL staying the night in the guest room then FMIL calling to tell us what a mess the house is.
For early mother’s day, FI got FMIL a card that said something like “Mom, it’s mother’s day, so take the day off, don’t lift a finger, don’t even think about doing chores.” On the inside it said “in other words, pretend you’re me!” So yeah, it was supposed to be a funny card, then right after you read it she said “you should have changed it to ‘us’ because neither of you clean up anything!”
While it’s true the house isn’t sparkling clean all the time, it’s at an acceptable level to the two of us, so I don’t see why she’s so invested in the cleanliness of a place she doesn’t even live. I also took some offense because she directs most of her household chore comments at me like it’s my womanly duty to clean the house.
Post # 3
@yaneres: Ugh, that’s awful!! How rude! All I can suggest is find someone else to feed the cats from now on when you go away.
Post # 4
@yaneres: Yeah, MY mom and I have issues as well – I caught her bad mouthing my house cleaning skills to one of her sisters. I don’t understand – if you don’t like it then don’t come over.
Post # 5
Yikes, I would feel so violated lol
Post # 6
call me weird but I would love that! I detest to clean. I keep the house clean enough for the two of us and we will occassionally go into a cleaning fury and do a deep clean. I live 5 hrs from my mom and 3 hrs from his mom so I never get the option to have my house cleaned for me. MIL has a housekeeper come twice a week and my mom has my dad who is OCD about cleaning so their houses are spotless ( minus MIL chiuahas that dont know how to hold their bladder for more than 30 minutes.)
So in short – be at least a little thankful that you have family who cares and is close enough and wants to do that pain-in-the-rear chore for you.
Post # 7
I totally understand, whenever FILs come into town I work with FH to get his apartment spotless. I don’t even live there and I worry FMIL will judge me (their house is spotless, how they manage that with a fluffy golden retriever I don’t know).
Post # 8
Everybody Loves Raymond depresses me! “Here’s marriage! A buffoon husband, a nag wife, and the worst in laws EVER! Have funnnnnnnnnnnn!” Like jeez, can’t you make it look a little less, I don’t know, cruel and unusual?