Post # 1
I just noticed that a couple Fiance & I knew a while back have changed their statuses on FB – from engaged, to single, to it’s complicated, etc. She and I were talking wedding stuff right around the time I started dress shopping, etc.
We don’t really know them well enough anymore for me to say anything, but I know it’s got to be a rough time for both of them. It’s a little frustrating. 🙁 I guess that’s the problem with having updates like that in a network that’s not entirely close friends.
Post # 3
This year has been really tough for a lot of couples i know. Either they are breaking up or they’re on the other end having children/getting married. I have a running list of about 10 couples this year alone that I have seen split, to include 2 of my 3 best friends’ relationships….
Post # 4
That’s why I hate that your relationship status change shows up in peoples feed (though there are ways to hide this); it’s sad but really no ones business. My sister had no idea how to hide it and when she went from married to single, people that didn’t know about her quick marriage turn divorce, made some unsettling and unneccessary comments. People should note it and move on, no need to comment.
Post # 5
@MissGreen: Yeah.. back before Fiance was Fiance, we had a breakup. I remember changing my “publish status changes” setting before making myself single again, to avoid the shitstorm of comments.
@sleepingbeauty88: That’s really rough. 🙁
Post # 6
Two friends of mine this year went from “married” to “it’s complicated”. Both have been together for 10+ years. In fact, one of the couples has been together for years and years, had 2 kids together, finally offically tied the knot a year ago are now listed as “it’s complicated”. I don’t want to pry or invade… my heart goes out to them.
Post # 7
We know two different couples who divorced this year that we found out about via facebook. One of the couples came as a complete shock, as we had spent time with them for our 1st year anniversary and they seemed completely happy. It would be really hard receiving comments on the changed relationship status though.. talk about adding salt to the wound.
Post # 8
Those updates are AWK-WARD!
Fiance and I don’t have “in a relationship with” or “engaged to” or anything because we feel that it’s private. I mean, all the people who know us already KNOW that – if I add a new friend from work or someone who hasn’t met him yet, I hardly think they need to know his full name and see his photo. Maybe we’re weird. I just don’t like having our names linked like that when I don’t feel like it’s anyone’s business but our own and the people we’re close to and BOTH spend time with!
Post # 9
It can really be sad for the couples you were rooting for. I hate when I see the good ones go down 🙁
However, some people play with the feature and change statuses like changing underwear. Those people I just want to scream at. I have a FB friend who literally cannot have two consecutive “good” days in her 9 month on again/off again relationship. Her bf will come to her house on Saturday night and stay ’til Sunday. During that time, her relationship status is “in a relationship” and her written statuses are all lovey dovey. After the guy goes home Sunday she’ll write about how much in love they are, more than ever before after this “amazing weekend.” Come Monday, her relationship status is single and she’s “done with men” and just wants to “focus on being a mommy for now.” Tuesday, she’s back “in a relationship and it’s complicated”. Thursday, she’s single again. Saturday, she’s back “in a relationship” and happier than ever. The cycle is continuous and ridiculous. You’re either happy with someone or you’re not. Being dramatic and changing your FB relationship status over every single mishap is immature!
Post # 10
I never really understood the “It’s complicated” status. Why would you want all of your friends to know that it’s complicated or that you are struggling in your relationship? I feel like that is something that is left private or in a personal conversation instead of broadcasting it over the internet, especially since it is not a finalized status and things could go either way.
I find myself upset over couples I’m rooting for when I see they are no longer married.
Post # 11
I hate finding things like this on FB. I have a good friend from HS who was at uni with us for a year before he had to go home to help out with his family when his mom got cancer. Found out today she died…through people saying sorry for the loss on FB. It was super sad, I loved his mom. It is an odd world we live in that so much is like this.
Post # 12
I found out a friend had died six months after the fact on FB. She had a tendency to drop offline for several months at a time due to her stalkerish ex-husband, so I never thought much of it. One day I decided to pop onto her profile, shoot her message… then see all these “We’ll Miss You!” comments. So very sad. Strangely,I found out my maternal grandfather died three months after the fact by Googling him. I only met h once, and it was just the year before, too.