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I had this point in time where we hadn't committed ourselves to any one wedding item, and so my ideas were all over the place. I didn't know if I wanted rustic or modern, and I was constantly seeing weddings that I loved, but trying to combine them into one monster wedding.
And then, we found a venue we really liked. And I could kind of imagine a certain wedding there, which eliminated a lot of the riff raff. And then the dress came along, and all of the sudden it all fits. I have enough narrowed down that I know what general feel I'm looking for, and I'm not sad about the styles that just don't have a place in our wedding.
I really felt like I'd be locking off options when we started committing to wedding details, but I actually am so relieved and enjoying planning much more.
@lilyfaith - I wish I could get to the point where I was locking down details. I'm just so indecisive. I always second guess myself. I think now as it's getting to the point where I need to start making definite decisions, I'm having to just realize I can't keep changing my mind, I have to decide certain things. Hopefully once I start doing that, I can enjoy this process a little more! Thanks for your input :)
nurselindsey - you have read my mind. This is my problem always, except I never really though about any details...ever. There were about 3 months from when we got engaged to....now-ish that I would ask (beg, cry etc) FI if we could "just get eloped" already. He knows that deep down, it just isn't me, so he always says no.
I see you have a Jan. 2011 wedding also; I am hoping that once we get a bit closer, the details will start falling into place? Do you have a venue or caterer yet?
Oh, I think this is so normal! I definitely had tons of ideas swirling in my head then I'd look at blogs and things and get different ideas, then I would go back on my first ideas, then see a new idea...this went on and on for a good 6 or so months for me. Wedding planning can be overwhelming, but that's what we're all here for! In the end, with all my ideas and planning, I came back around to my original ideas, only with a few twists on them. So I would suggest staying true to the ideas that first got you excited about your wedding and expand on those. Make sure you're not losing your joy because this should be a fun experience for you.
You haven't lost your creativity, you're just overwhelmed right now. Try to simplify things (narrow in on your one vision for your day) and I think you'll start feeling better about your planning!
@rachelrobin - Yay for January 2011 brides! Yes, we have our venue. We are getting married at our church and having our reception at a nearby venue. We have our caterer, photographer(my cousin) our videographer and we know who is doing our cake(my aunt) So we have a lot of the major details covered, just none of the little ones! And I know what you mean, I ask my FI all the time if we can just elope somewhere but he knows that 10 years down the road, I'd regret not having our family and friends there, so he won't. How abot you? What all do you have done?
@jennybirdy - That's great advice! I really appreciate it. Unfortunately, after all the ideas that have swarmed through my head, I can't even remember my original ideas lol. But I'm sure something will come to me soon :)
jennybird--thanks for that, definitely makes me feel better.
nurselindsey--well not quite yet. i have the venue i want to book with and the caterer i want to use, unfortunately the venue has a "perfered" list so it is getting a bit hairy, because our caterer isnt on it (yet)...
ideally i'll have the place and food booked soon. so that said, i feel like i cant do any other detail planning, because it would be a bit of a waste of time.
Thats awesome that your family is helping out with photos and desert! What colors are you thinking of using?
Hopefully I'll have some good news updates soon, as in the next week or so!
@rachaelrobin - I hope everything works out with your caterer and venue and I hope we hear some good news from you soon! Well, my bridesmaids dresses are going to be a light blue, and the rest of the wedding is going to have light blue, accents of royal blue and accents of silver. Winter wonderland-ish. I think it'll be pretty! How about you?
Oh thanks!
I like the winter wonderland theme -- Right now, I am leaning towards a deep red (like burgdany or something) for the bridesmaids dress with maybe accent colors of gold and cream.
I had so many dreams of what my wedding would be like...then reality hit! I think all these wedding shows and blogs put too many high expectations and when it comes time to write the checks you realize it's not so easy to just throw money everywhich way. My dream wedding would cost way too much money and is way unrealistic. So I am being resourceful and getting creative and doing my best to find something that will be beautiful and will work for me with the time I have
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Before I got engaged, I had so many ideas of what I dreamed of my wedding to look like. However, it's almost as if once that ring was on my finger, every one of them changed! Now, I feel so clueless about everything. I feel like any creativity I once had has disappeared, hence all the questions I post on here, begging for help lol! I guess I just never realized how much there was to wedding planning. I'm so afraid of leaving out details or missing something important. All of it can be so stressful, it makes me want to elope!
Did this happen to any of you bees?