Post # 1
Like many Bees, I have learned SO. MUCH. from being part of this community.
But that knowledge has its price. Like … there are things that I never knew were rude, and now that I DO know they’re considered rude, they make me roll my eyes in a way they never would have before I joined this site!
Example: a girl I went to high school with just got married recently. She was posting all over facebook about her wedding, including linking to her wedding website and posting things like “does everyone know where to be and when? Can’t wait!”
Pre-Bee, I probably would have just been excited for her and maybe even checked out her wedding website because why not? Post-Bee, I’m all “ugh, SO rude to post all about your wedding and rub it in the faces of the people who weren’t invited.” Haha DANG IT WEDDINGBEE, WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO ME???!
What things never would have bothered you before you got on the Bee and learned they were apparently considered rude? Do you think you’ll ever be able to go back to the time before your eyes were opened — back to a simpler age when registry info included with invites and brides’ mothers throwing bridal showers didn’t bother you?
Post # 3
I have to check it every single day!!! AND because every time I see a beautiful recap I think ” Oh gosh, I hope my wedding will be that nice, let me favorite it.”
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I think I have learned a lot to be sure! However, it’s kind of only made me more aware of how other people COULD take certain things. Such as the thread I made the other day about a gentle suggestion on guest attire on the invites, etc. But these things that people do, that I know… I may have knowledge that others could see it as rude but I still honestly don’t think they will get to me!
If someone puts their registry info in their invite, I would probably think in the back of my head “oh no, shouldn’t have done that” but then I would forget about it and still go visit their registry and get them a gift (or a check!!).
There are other things I have learned that are actually super practical! One that comes to mind is recently I had learned that you shouldn’t put both couple’s names on the check, because they might not be able to cash it until her name is officially changed! So at a wedding I was in in mid August, I wrote the check out to just the groom (with a note that it was obviously for both!) Just the other day I got a check in the mail and they put Mr. and Mrs. (MrLastName) and I thought… “I don’t mind waiting to cash it but I hope they don’t either!”
Post # 5
Those still dont bother me, there are a lot of etiquette snobs who need to get the emily post stuck so far up somewhere out On here. I didnt realize how evil and judgemental other women can be towards others when social norms arent the same.
Post # 6
I definitely give bigger double takes than I did before!! I also almost reconsidered getting my graduate degree in my field because of the bee… No crap…
Post # 7
@Sunnyday278: exactly — it’s not like these things people do actually BOTHER me; I just have that momentary thought of “oops, that was bad etiquette” that totally wouldn’t have even occurred to me before!
I am also now totally paranoid about any and every pregnancy-related status I make on Facebook. Is this going to bother someone? Will it be considered funny or TMI? Will I see a thread about myself later??? Haha!
Post # 8
I keep wanting to buy more and more gifts for my wedding party. I read lots of posts saying that any gift required for the wedding (jewelry, shoes, hair/makeup, etc.) isn’t an official gift and the bride should give something in addition to that. I’ve been staring at my pile of Blue Nile necklaces, pashminas, shoes, and robes for my bridesmaids thinking “OH GOD I’M A TERRIBLE BRIDE! MY BRIDESMAIDS WON’T HAVE ANY GIFTS AT ALL AND THEY’RE GOING TO HATE ME”. I know they’re going to be happy no matter what, but the Bee brings me down on that sometimes. I’ll always love WB though 🙂
Post # 9
@iarebridezilla: I never knew what moissy was or that it caused so much conflict with diamond lovers; I never knew that gifts were not a given for weddings; and I definitely didn’t know that people judge every single thing you do under a microscope all the time (hence why we are eloping :P).
Post # 10
@iarebridezilla: Mainly I wish I hadn’t discovered it because it is a time suck and I never get any work done!
Post # 11
@iarebridezilla: I hadn’t seen you around today, I thought maybe you went into labor. I guess I spend too much time on the Bee to notice when people aren’t around :/
Post # 12
Honestly, I think a lot of the things people consider rude here, like the example you gave, are so dumb. All being here has really done is given me a heads up about all of the silly things people will find to get offended about.
Don’t get me wrong, there are things one should avoid doing and things one should try to do, but a lot of what I read about etiquette, how people’s feelings got hurt, and what people find to be horrible or offensive is just utterly absurd.
Other than that kind of stuff, being here is pretty fun.
Post # 13
@iarebridezilla: I was always sort of annoyed with registry info on invitations, requests for cash, cash bars, etc. But having been the WeddingBee I find I’m much more annoyed with them. Before I would have been, “That’s a bit rude,” and been done with it. But now I’m all, “Ugh, how rude. This person has no manners. Didn’t they even try to figure out proper etiquette? Or are they just that selfish?”
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not about to start ending friendships. But my level of annoyence at certain things has gone up.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
@iarebridezilla: Ohhh then yes, I am the same way!!!! Haha! Of course even before the Bee when I was in a wedding where the bride served the head table champagne and no one else I thought it was bad form.. now I just know that I was right LOL.
Post # 15
“Sometimes I wish I have never discovered Weddingbee because…”
I’ve learned that people that are supposed to love us will probably be incredibly snarky and mean-spirited about our wedding choices behind our backs, but act to my face like they love the “originality.” Hell, they probably are now.
I had always been under the impression that this was the *one* day in someones life you’d cut them a break and just be happy for them without making fun of them…but based one some posts I see, that could not be further from the truth.
Post # 16
Weddingbee distracts me from my school work. Like, I literally don’t get crap done anymore.