- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Our entire wedding party has been drama from the start!
I picked one of my closest friends to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I have no sisters or close female family members, so my party will consist of only friends. I’ve known this person since we were in grade school -so a really long time. We’re pretty similar and laugh alot. I wouldn’t say she’s the friend I’d go to for advice, or a good cry, but she is there if I need her for sure!
So, I asked…she said yes. She just assumed she was my Maid/Matron of Honor (we’re off to a great start). Now, I didn’t correct her because I wasn’t really planning on having one -and I figured for the most part she would have all the traditional roles anyway.
Fast forward to dress shopping -she came with me, but tried on dresses too! She’s been with a guy for a while, but they’re not engaged. I let it slide because trying on dresses is fun and she did support me when I was in dresses.
…then she started sending me emails about what SHE would like for HER imaginary wedding. I was totally annoyed, but again let it go because I’ve been a bridesmaid before and know how it feels.
…so, we’ve been going on like this for a while. Its a mix of her being supportive (helping me through bad dress fittings, crazy inlaw issues), and her being a total witch!
To date I’ve asked her to do very little: purchase Bridesmaid or Best Man dress (ordered online so easy), look at my inspiration pictures, look over my invites (shes an editor), come to dress fittings (actually, I didn’t ask she volunteered)…that’s it!
She emailed me a couple of times asking for information regarding guests I would like at my shower (oh cool she’s hosting my shower). She has the contact info for my other BM’s, mom, and aunt, but has never contacted them!
BUT I get an email TELLING ME that she can’t do everything and I need to ask the rest of the wedding party involved. (how the eff does she know what the rest of the wedding party IS or ISN’T doing?!) She’s done helping because shes too busy and stressed out, has too much on her plate bla bla bla and I can plan my own shower since I already know who I want there (um hello, did you not get the list? or contact my mum?)! WTF?
I sent her back an email saying I’m sorry she’s stressed that if the shower is too much she should just let my other BM’s know because they are more than willing to help. I cannot plan my own shower because that would be rude, otherwise I would help!
So, I havent heard from her since…until just now. I get an email telling me what she did this weekend (attended an engagement party, basketball game, bla bla bla. OH BY THE WAY Boyfriend or Best Friend AND I ARE PLANNING A STAG AND DOE FOR SOEMONE FROM WORK -PLEASE BUY TICKETS.
I really hope she’s just plain dumb because I’m taking this personally.