- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
So here’s a story all about how my life got flipped and turned upside down….just kidding. One of my bridesmaids, my best friend now for 7 years, has gotten suddenly a lot les friendly. She’s always been a bit snarky and condescending, but i’d accepted that as part of her personality. But for a month or so now, I feel like everything has been falling apart. The first issue was my hair supplies. Because she’s a beautician, and is doing my hair for the wedding, I asked her to order the supplies for me, as she gets a sizeable discount. I already had an account built for her, all she had to do was give me her card number so I can plug it in the account and order it. Id already put the money in her account, and for a good 3 or 4 days she hemmed and hawed on ordering the hair, until she finally admitted she’d overdrafted her account, and couldn’t make the purchases until we got paid. Although annoyed, I understood that it happens to everyone and I waited. When she finally ordered the hair, I never got a confirmation email. When I inquired why she forwarded me the one shed received, in her new account that did not have her discount applied. Now that seriously pissed me off, as it implied to me that she doesn’t trust me enough not to steal from her. I already had a feeling she didn’t trust me when she wouldn’t give me her card number to enter the system myself, she insisted on doing it. So I let her know that she paid full retail price because her new account wasn’t linked to her cosmetologist license and all I had sent her was enough for the discounted price. Her one worded response was “f^ck”. So from there, the supplies was sent to her mothers house, 1200 miles away, because she didn’t bother entering in my address for shipping. 2 weeks later, her brother “just put it in the mail” this weekend, because her mom is bad about sending mail. That’s fine and dandy, but they were my items that I purchased, and it was honestly her fault, so she should’ve A, stayed on her mom, or B, have her mom drop it off at my mothers as id suggested. I’m still waiting on the items, hoping to get them sometime this week. All throughout this debacle she’s asking me why I need the items so soon, etc etc, which is an invalid line of questioning; even if I don’t need the items for 5 years the fact is I paid money for them, so I expect them in a timely manner. The straw that broke the camels back was last night, she invited my FI and I to a bar she frequents, which is a good 20 miles away. The only reason we go is for her, to hang out as friends should. When we get there, I show the bar security my military id, and he refused entrance because it does not have my height and weight. I’ve never been to a bar where my ID was not a valid form of identification (its federally issued, for pete’s sake!), so I left and went to a different bar. When I texted her what had happened, her response was “ok have a good time!”. No empathy, no caring at all that id wasted time, gas, and money on parking to spend time with her. So I texted her later, as I was pretty upset with the bar, and she’d told me that she knew they had that policy. I was floored, why didn’t she tell me, or at least say “sorry girl, I just remembered when you told me”, you know, something indicating that she cared. So I told her how silly that was of that bar as a military town, there’s a lot of servicemembers who don’t drive, therefore they don’t carry around their state ids. And then she snapped at me, well why didn’t you have yours? At that point I was done; I’ve obviously seen her true colors. I’ve asked her what’s with the negative vibe going on, and I’m still waiting for an answer. But at this point, at a point so close to the big day, I don’t have time for negativity. I am seriously considering replacing her as a bridesmaid with one of my cousins; she hasn’t even purchased her plane ticket yet (another point of contention), and I don’t want her to waste money or time if she really doesn’t want to be there. What should I do bees?