Post # 1
I was discussing with a friend a few days ago the things that happened with my wedding and today on weddingbee I see a lot of posts that just make me think, “yeah they just don’t care”.
For me it was getting ready and having my Future-aunt-in-law freak out because I told her I wouldn’t watch her kids while we were getting ready for MY wedding. Sorry but I don’t care that you want to go have lunch, I wanted to get ready for my day without worrying about your 6 and 7 year old running around! She obviously just didn’t care that it was my wedding day.
What were some things that made you think the same???
Post # 3
@smith2be: That’s so silly! I have just noticed so far in planning that some people just don’t care… my aunts are leaving it up to me to figure out what to do with their dogs during it??
Post # 4
That’s weird–they sound like they have problems. Sorry.
Post # 5
@smith2be: I feel this way today as well. What runs through people’s heads sometimes?!
My matron-of-honor is very much acting like she doesn’t care that it’s my wedding, since she’s not doing a damn thing she’s supposed to be doing.
How about our parents (who aren’t paying for anything substantial) inviting 86 people to our wedding – about half of which I haven’t met yet and a quarter that hasn’t seen my FH in over 5 years! AND they’re local!
Post # 6
Honestly, I think it’s sometimes a good reminder. People don’t always realize what’s going on in your life, they aren’t always thoughtful when they do know, and life doesn’t stop for anyone because of wedding preparation. I’m not scolding you at all, just saying, it’s something I had to remember a few times as well so that I didn’t snap at people.
Post # 7
Some people just don’t care at all!
I have a whole post on this because we had a guest come to our DW wedding who acted like a complete idiot with no regard for our wedding the entire trip 🙁
It really sucks when people can’t get over themselves…
Post # 8
My maid of honor is currently mad that her boyfriend (whom I’ve never met) cannot attend the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner because my FI feels very strongly about having the wedding party only in attendance and told me it was a slap in her face.
She’s also mad that I told her 6 weeks in advance that she needs a hotel for her boyfriend for Friday night (I’m giving her a place to stay with the bridal party Friday). I’m also giving her and her boyfriend a place to stay the night after the wedding. I just think it’s silly she’s taking everything really personally when she shouldn’t….uggghhh.
Post # 9
ya i totally found that a lot of my friends didn’t care to hear stuff about my planning or anything. in particular, i remember asking my MOH/best friend if i could just SHOW her a picture of what my ceremony set up on the beach was going to look like. Like this would mean clicking “open” on a file on my computer and her looking at it for all of two seconds! I asked to show her because i was excited and wanted to share one thing. her reply was “no, its okay”. So you can better believe i never asked to show her anything again after that!
but i did find that the bees DO care, so i was always very grateful for all of you!
Post # 10
@smith2be: I know a lot of people just really don’t care about the wedding planning process, which is totally fine, but your aunt (-in-law) wanting you to watch her kids while you were getting ready on the day of the wedding (did I read that right?) is just really weird. If she thinks it’s not such a big deal to watch her kids, why didn’t she want to take them to lunch? That’s bizarre.
Post # 11
@GreenGables: In a nutshell she’s not a great mom, she depends on everyone else to take care of her kids and since I work in childcare I often offer to watch her kids for her. The day of the wedding she didn’t want to take the kids to lunch with her and her husband so she asked if they could hang out in our getting ready room. I said no and she was shocked and very upset. Honestly she just didn’t care that it was my wedding day, she still thought I should be making these easier on her.
@kala_way: I completely agree, that was the point of the post. So many times I want to respond with. “they don’t care so learn to live with it” but I know thats not what people want to hear. I was curious about what other brides experienced during planning or on there day.
Post # 12
@smith2be:wow! that is hilarious! i seriously LOLed! i can hardly believe how thoughtless/insensitive that is!
Post # 13
That’s a ridiculous request your aunt made! I hope she eventually realizes how selfish that was.
I feel bad because when my brother got married two years ago, I was the BM that didn’t care. My SIL was in California planning a wedding in Michigan and I was in Nevada and I detest talking on the phone so we really didn’t talk about it a lot. Then once the wedding rolled around I got stuck training this major psycho at work, got behind on everything, and then had to go out of town for a week for the wedding. I was stressed out and very sleep-deprived and I think there were times I probably seemed like a bitch. Like her Mom threw this nice shower for her and had sent invites with a little card to write something nice about the bride, and I accidentally left mine at home 2000 miles away. I still feel bad about it because she’s really nice and my disinterest had nothing to do with her, I just had a lot of other shit going on 🙁
Post # 14
@assilem:and here’s another reason for all of us brides to remember to not judge our bridesmaids too harshly when they don’t seem to be perfectly up to our standards and bowing to our every wish! 🙂
Post # 15
yeah I def. have a few people who really didn’t understand this was our wedding, not the family’s wedding. Totally made things about themselves.
Post # 16
I really cannot believe someone would ask you to babysit young children on your WEDDING DAY, one of the most important days of your life! Honestly, that’s so selfish! Even if it’s just for an hour, that is an hour of your time that you are taking away from your special day and yourself. If you actually had an extra hour to spare that day, it should to be relax and really enjoy the day. And it’s not like it was for some emergency…it was for lunch that she could have taken them to. Wow, some stories seriously amaze me…and not in a good way!