(Closed) Sometimes Weddingbee isn’t good for me :( Curious….

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

oh that’s terrible okqueenbee and i’m sorry you ended up arguing for 3 hours! yeesh. i hope your argument was not sparked by the fact that you are just on this site/message boards. i think i have been feeling quite empowered by the hive and it’s given me the cajones to start speaking up for myself. the BF doesn’t know i’m on here at all, and i don’t bring our relationship stuff up in the context of something i’ve read or talked about on here. i think if the hive brings up issues that relate to you and your current situation, there’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to talk about those issues with your hubby. however, i would not use the hive by name as a yardstick for my own relationship because i, too, would probably end up starting something i wouldn’t know how to fully deal with. i think it’s a fine line, and it’s great to ask for and offer advice to others and to act on some of the advice you’ve received. but i would err on the side of being cautious about bringing up specific things you read about here and only discuss things that are relevant to you and your relationship. i hope you two were able to patch things up and have a wonderful New Years celebration depsite it!

Post # 5
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4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry that happens. I understand that though. I always bring stuff up to FI about things on here. Luckily they haven’t started any fights yet *knock on wood!*

Post # 7
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2344 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can certainly relate to this. It’s not just limited to Weddingbee, but really a lot of things I will read online about relationships or marriage. In the end, I would rather argue about something because we both feel passionately, than not discuss important issues that are pressing on my mind. But I am a very “hash it out” person. 

Post # 8
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1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I definately think that if you read too much of anything about weddings and relationships, your brain and emotions can take over and make you upset. I don’t think it’s entirely uncommon. You just have to remember that when you get overwhelmed with information here, it’s time to take a break and go hug your FI and remember why you are marrying him in the first place!

Don’t let other posters’ issues get you down! Instead, use your experience to help those bees resolve their own questions. That’s what the boards are all about! Sorry to hear you were fighting though, that sucks.

Post # 9
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with whitesonnet. Sometimes I’ll read something about marriage being awful and hard work and non-rewarding, blah blah blah and I’ll tell FH that “I read this article…” and he won’t let me finish. He always just reminds me that we’re not a statistic and we’re our own special and unique relationship and just because something happened to someone else doesn’t mean that it will or won’t happen to us and that we love each other. And then usually he doesn’t let me look at wedding stuff for a few hours to clear my head. 

I’m sorry you argued with your FH about something you read. Maybe you need to tell him that you related to things that you read on the internet and sometimes you need him to support that? I really don’t know what to say but *e-hug*.

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