(Closed) Somewhat depressing

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I remember my “plan” of getting engaged right after college. I would be 22 years old. Then I decided on grad school, which brought me to 25. Then I decided to break up with my bf of 7 1/2 years. Which had me freaking out. But thank goodness all that happened, if it didn’t, I wouldn’t have met my husband. Yes, I’m older than I’d like to be. It would be nice if we met earlier in life, but that just didn’t happen.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@artbee: <– Ditto for me!

Life happens when you are busy planning for your future…

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@artbee: <– Ditto for me!

Life happens when you are busy planning for your future…

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Don’t feel old!!  I’m going to be 32 by the time we tie the knot and although A LOT of people are constantly telling me you should be married and have kids by now, I always look at my life as if it’s not a race.  I’ve done a lot of the things I’ve wanted to in life, and I’m pretty sure that being married in my mid-20’s would not have allowed for a lot of it! (Nothing against those who have married earlier).  My sister married quite young and she always says she regrets not emptying her bank account and travelling (something I’ve done several times) before ‘settling down’.  Try and celebrate all of the things that you have accomplished so far in your life, and don’t worry about your age in relation to when you get engaged/married (it means absolutely nothing!!)

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Why is it depressing? I would be more depressed to be marrying the guy I dated at 15.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I’m one of those who met my SO in our extremely late teens (19) but I still struggle with those feelings you have because according to my life plan, I’m waaay off track.  I wanted to be engaged at 22, married at 24, children at 28.  I’m currently almost 26 and certainly am not engaged or married and will NOT be having children in 2 years.  No way, no how.  Sometimes those posts make me feel like I’m not special enough to have gotten engaged/married so young and that since it’s taking my SO  f o r e v e r  to pop the damn question maybe I’m not as awesome as those girls.   Then I remember… this is MY life and I love myself and everything that I am and have experienced, no matter how crappy or undesirable it was.

How different would your life be if you lived it the way those other people have?  Would you be anywhere near the person you are right now?  Probably not.  Who knows what your life would be like!  I finally came to the conclusion that it’s better for my mental health to appreciate what I have now rather than pine for something that I have no clue about.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Don’t feel bad! Everyone’s on a different path and honestly, for me, I didn’t want to get married that early. (Not sure I would have waited this late either, but oh well!) One it gave me time for my career and be able to travel and frankly be a little selfish for a while.

It’s not a race, it’s your life to be lived as you see fit. Just enjoy!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Cripes… I can’t even imagine being married to the drip I was dating at 15.  *shudder*

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Don’t feel bad at all- in my early 20s I couldn’t imagine myself being tied down- it just wasn’t for me…. I needed to go out and live life a bit before getting there.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@kay01: That’s crazy.

When I was young, my “plan” was to be married and have my first baby by the age of 30. Well, I’m going to be 31 this August and I still have neither :/

Gwen

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I always thought I’d get married in my early twenties and be finished with making babies by time I was 30. That’s how my mom did it. But now I’m 28, in a 10 year relationship and still waiting for a proposal – but I’m not depressed or sad about it. I actually wasn’t ready to get married until I was 25/26. I couldn’t even imagine getting married in my early 20s – I was finishing up school and living my life, travelling and partying lol. And it seems the norm amongst my family and friends to get married in their late 20s/early 30s. Everyone’s relationship is different and life isn’t a race as PPs have said. Focus on the good things in your life and live as happily as you can!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@kay01: have you spoken to your SO about all of this?  what’s stopping him (or you) from proposing?

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