Post # 1
Many women seem to find out things about their family/closest of friends during weddings. Do weddings bring out the worst in women (whether it be BM’s, MOH, or Bride)? Or is it simply their true character showing?
ETA-I should have titled it women and weddings!
Post # 3
@invisabee: I think adversity reveals character.
Post # 4
@invisabee: I think it’s more of a true colours thing than bring out the worst in every single woman who plans a wedding. Most of my friends who have been brides have not been ‘bridezillaish’ at all. Just one or two exceptions.
I think most of it is because etiquette is not as well known these days as it would have been in previous generations – for most people this is the first, and last, big/formal etc. event they will host so they probably aren’t aware of some customs and etiquette. It is relatively easy to educate yourself via the iternet but again there is so much disparity between regions and cultures (plus society has evolved a lot) that it can leave some people unsure what is right or not. And then some people are just rude of course, lol.
Post # 5
@invisabee: I think it brings out horrible things lol! Even the sweetest of women develop a narcissistic view of themselves (I call it “bridal brain”) that makes everyone around them miserable. Thank goodness it’s only temporary.
Post # 6
Our wedding brought out the worst in everyone. I am so ridiculousl glad we had a short engagement, because it was AWFUL. Seriously, there were so many times we just wanted to run away and elope, but we’d already spent too much money.
Post # 7
@Tigerlilybride: I’m sorry to hear that These things should always be happy but unfortunately it just doesn’t always work out that way.
Post # 9
Eh – I think people watch too much TV and EXPECT the bride to be a horrible bitch.
And then the bride is under a microscope and it gets stressful. Big weddings are just a mindfuck all around for everyone involved.
Post # 10
Agreed! It just shows what they’re like under pressure.
Before our wedding, I got increasingly calm and giggle-y about the whole thing! Which is how I handle all stress/pressure.
Post # 11
@Aquaria: Ooh, I like “bridal brain.” So far, I haven’t been around women who act like this. Then again, I’ve only known a few people to get married. I remember 7 years ago, my FSIL made everyone wait about an hour (might have actually been a little longer) before she walked down the aisle. She for whatever reason (never said what) took her sweet time getting ready and we all just sat at the church talking. Her brother (my SO) was ready to leave LOL
Post # 12
Having a wedding tends to bring out family dramas, money issues, etc – basically a lot of stress and some people are able to handle it well and some aren’t.
Post # 13
It’s interesting seeing all the stuff that goes on here when someone is planning a wedding because I have never met someone IRL who changes while planning her wedding. I think that the majority of women do not have the worst brought out in them while planning.
Post # 14
I must be an anomaly. Because I really thought the wedding brought our the best in everyone. I definitely went a bit bridal crazy from time to time, so maybe it brought out the worst in me. But everyone was super supportive, which was reall important because we really needed the help! The one notable exceptin to this was my grandmother who just didn’t understtand the casual outdoor wedding thing. But she came around. And, to be fair, she really tried to hold her tongue and be supportive and I really appreciated it. I just had to convince her that using candles in the centerpieces would not burn down the entire city. But she bought my dress and actually let me pick it out all on my own without trying in influence me, which is pretty impressive for her. Overall, I thought the wedding really showed how awesome our friends and family are and really helped me feel the love and support from everyone!
Post # 15
@invisabee: Without a doubt — true colors are revealed.
People are always quick to say “Marry the person he/she is on the day of the wedding” or “Don’t expect people to change just because you got married.” I think people should apply the exact same concept to their families and friends when planning and having a wedding.
Your friends and family will not change just because you asked them to be a bridesmaid or because it’s your/their wedding planning time or wedding day. For this reason, it’s important for a bride to choose wisely who she wants close to her throughout that process, and family/BMs/MOHs should choose carefully whether to commit themselves. Good or bad, it will come out.
Post # 16
@JenGirl: That’s awesome! I see a lot of horror stories on here which prompted me to ask the question.