Somewhat of a spinoff…women and their weddings

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do weddings bring out the worst in women?
    Yes! : (18 votes)
    23 %
    No. : (16 votes)
    20 %
    It just shows their true colors : (45 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 3
    3845 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @invisabee:   I think adversity reveals character.  

    Post # 4
    1248 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @invisabee:  I think it’s more of a true colours thing than bring out the worst in every single woman who plans a wedding. Most of my friends who have been brides have not been ‘bridezillaish’ at all. Just one or two exceptions.


    I think most of it is because etiquette is not as well known these days as it would have been in previous generations – for most people this is the first, and last, big/formal etc. event they will host so they probably aren’t aware of some customs and etiquette. It is relatively easy to educate yourself via the iternet but again there is so much disparity between regions and cultures (plus society has evolved a lot) that it can leave some people unsure what is right or not. And then some people are just rude of course, lol.

    Post # 5
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @invisabee:  I think it brings out horrible things lol! Even the sweetest of women develop a narcissistic view of themselves (I call it “bridal brain”) that makes everyone around them miserable. Thank goodness it’s only temporary.

    Post # 6
    1112 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Our wedding brought out the worst in everyone. I am so ridiculousl glad we had a short engagement, because it was AWFUL. Seriously, there were so many times we just wanted to run away and elope, but we’d already spent too much money.

    Post # 9
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Eh – I think people watch too much TV and EXPECT the bride to be a horrible bitch.

    And then the bride is under a microscope and it gets stressful.  Big weddings are just a mindfuck all around for everyone involved.

    Post # 10
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Agreed! It just shows what they’re like under pressure.

    Before our wedding, I got increasingly calm and giggle-y about the whole thing! Which is how I handle all stress/pressure.

    Post # 12
    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @skippydarling:  +1

    Having a wedding tends to bring out family dramas, money issues, etc – basically a lot of stress and some people are able to handle it well and some aren’t.

    Post # 13
    6455 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It’s interesting seeing all the stuff that goes on here when someone is planning a wedding because I have never met someone IRL who changes while planning her wedding. I think that the majority of women do not have the worst brought out in them while planning.

    Post # 14
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I must be an anomaly. Because I really thought the wedding brought our the best in everyone. I definitely went a bit bridal crazy from time to time, so maybe it brought out the worst in me. But everyone was super supportive, which was reall important because we really needed the help! The one notable exceptin to this was my grandmother who just didn’t understtand the casual outdoor wedding thing. But she came around. And, to be fair, she really tried to hold her tongue and be supportive and I really appreciated it. I just had to convince her that using candles in the centerpieces would not burn down the entire city. But she bought my dress and actually let me pick it out all on my own without trying in influence me, which is pretty impressive for her. Overall, I thought the wedding really showed how awesome our friends and family are and really helped me feel the love and support from everyone!

    Post # 15
    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @invisabee:  Without a doubt — true colors are revealed.

    People are always quick to say “Marry the person he/she is on the day of the wedding” or “Don’t expect people to change just because you got married.” I think people should apply the exact same concept to their families and friends when planning and having a wedding.

    Your friends and family will not change just because you asked them to be a bridesmaid or because it’s your/their wedding planning time or wedding day. For this reason, it’s important for a bride to choose wisely who she wants close to her throughout that process, and family/BMs/MOHs should choose carefully whether to commit themselves. Good or bad, it will come out.

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