Somewhat wedding-related: who should pay in this situation?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: You would...
    Suck it up and pay the cleaning bill. : (67 votes)
    88 %
    Ask your SO to pay for cleaning, it was his family's wedding and his relative : (5 votes)
    7 %
    Reach out to the wine dumper and ask for help with the bill. : (4 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    4529 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @musician32992:  Nothing, honestly. I wouldnt demand she pay or send her a bill or anything…you cannot teach good manners. That sucks big time, but I’d just pay the bill.

    Post # 5
    731 posts
    Busy bee

    She should have offered to pay, but since she didn’t, you are probably going to have to do it, unless you want to look petty. It was an accident.

    Post # 7
    2170 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @badabing88:  +1. I would just suck it up and pay the bill and say nothing to her. She should have offered to pay on her own but probably she is clueless about such things. 

    Post # 8
    1818 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    If it were me I would not expect anything except an apology.

    Post # 10
    2557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would suck it up and pay the bill.  Sucks that she spilled the drink on your dress, but accidents happen, so unless she purposely poured a glass of wine down the front of your dress, I think you’re on your own with the bill.

    Post # 11
    9028 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would accept an apology but I’d just pay the dry cleaning bill myself since it was an honest accident.  If she offered to pay that’d be great but I probably wouldn’t hold it against her if she didn’t.

    Post # 13
    731 posts
    Busy bee

    @musician32992:  Yeah, I would have offered, but the point is that she didn’t. That was rude of her, and it *is* within your right to ask her to pay, but unfortunately, if you do so, you will look petty. 

    Post # 15
    8706 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Nobody has ever offered to pay my dry cleaning bill if they spilled a drink on my outfit. I wouldnt even give it any thought. It isnt that serious (to me).

    Post # 16
    5757 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’d find a cheaper dry cleaner and forget about it.

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