Post # 1
So have you ever had that thing where you go to a wedding and the first dance is to a song that is about a break up or something? Just because a song is slow and seems romantic doesn’t mean it actually is. Am I the only one who has experiences this? Recently I had a girl tell me that her and her FH’s song was ‘The Scientist’ by Coldplay. I’m pretty sure that song is about a failed relationship. I’ve heard that Sting once said people always tell him they danced to ‘Every Breath You Take’ at their weddings which he said is ridiculous because it’s about stalking someone.
What songs have you heard people mistake for romantic?
ETA: Guys please remember that this is just a fun, jokey thread. We’re not trying to snark on anyone or their wedding.
Post # 3
Maybe because people speak French and have not listened to the lyrics, but I would say: Hotel California (The Eagles) (not for a first dance, but in general).
That’s a question I was wondering as well about a first song. We won’t have any, but I thought : what if the song I choose represents us, but is not ”romantic”. What if the romantic connection between my SO and I and this song is not at all linked to the lyrics ? Ex.: you’ve first kissed to this song, or you’re first made love listening to this song, or this song for whatever reason represents a key moment in your relationship, and therefore has become ”your” song ?
I don’t think a song has to be romantic to be played for a first dance. But I agree some choices might be questionable (ex.: if it’s obscene language or hateful). But about breakups or failed relationships, it doesn’t really bother me. Sometimes the lyrics partially represent the couple (ex.: the chorus, but not the verses), sometimes they don’t and the song has another symbolic significance for the couple.
Post # 4
John Mayer’s “Daughters”! Ok so it’s not ROMANTIC per se but I had to say it. It’s about not ruining your daughter’s life by not being a horrible parent, it’s not a good daddy daughter song!
Post # 5
-Hallelujah – Jeff Buckley (heard this at a wedding once. Cringe)
-Lips of an Angel
Post # 6
@NauticalDisaster: Agreed, i don’t think a song has to be a romantic love song to be the couples song. It should represent you. Even if you’re doing the chicken dance 😉
Post # 7
Signed, Sealed, Delivered by Stevie Wonder. It’s certainly not as bad as some, but the whole song is about how he ran around on the girl and wants her to take him back.
Also, right now people really seem to like Ho Hey by the Lumineers because of the chorus, but it’s really about how they each ended up with other people.
Post # 8
“Lady in Red” has always been my favorite, since I learned that a “Lady in Red” is a really nice way of saying hooker.
Post # 9
It’s the first song you’re dancing to it’s not a metaphor for your relationship.
Post # 10
Heaven, by Warrant.
All my life I thought it was a romantic song, but now I realize its a song about his daughter. But I think most other people think its a romantic song, too. I’m still kind of on the fence about it though. Its kinda creepy to me, cause it has things that sound romantic, but it also says things that are clearly geared toward a daughter.
Post # 11
@Ruby-Redshoes: Picture of you by the cure
heard this as a first dance, beautiful song but…*eck
Post # 12
@Ruby-Redshoes: my cousin’s wife walked down the aisle to I Will Always Love You. And yes, they started it at the very beginning which is “If I should stay I would only be in the way…”
Post # 13
@NauticalDisaster: well that’s true. Our “song” is really the entire Rent score but I guess mostly Seasons of Love and I’ll Cover You. I’d love to dance to the slower version of Cover You but it’s the scene where one of them is dying so it doesn’t really seem appropriate. Boooo
Post # 14
Some examples made me LOL.
I asked myself this question as I was wondering if I would ever do a father-daughter dance just for fun (because he won’t get to walk me down an aisle, so maybe have a fun moment together and get pictures) but the song that came to my mind was Sharp Dressed Man by ZZTop. Because my father is a huge fan of ZZTop, I grew up listening to it and now I’m a fan too. The lyrics are cool, it’s funny, but it’s clearly not representative of my dad’s fashion, and it’s not father/daughter material either !
Post # 15
Hahahaha I think I’m one of these people with a song that doesn’t make sense! Our song is that Phil Collins song from Tarzan– “You’ll be in my heart” is maybe the exact title…? It sounds romantic but I’m pretty sure in the movie it was sang as a mother-child song, haha. One of the lines is “for one so small, you seem so strong” LOL maybe we will just cough loudly through that line because the rest of the song sounds romantic! 🙂
@NauticalDisaster: I love I’ll Cover You! Especially the upbeat version 🙂 Maybe you could play it as a fun song for exiting the ceremony or entering the reception??
Post # 16
Bruno Mars, Marry You. I get why people use this song regardless, but still:
“We’re looking for something dumb to do. Who cares if we’re trashed got a pocket full of cash we can blow oh oh oh, Hey baby, I think I wanna marry you. Said say I do, If we wake up and you wanna break up that’s cool. No, I won’t blame you; It was fun, girl.”
This is a throwback now, but Dave Matthews Band’s ‘Crash Into Me’ actually has some creepy lyrics and used to be ridiculously popular as a ‘love song’ type