- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
this is my first post, im feeling so lost at the moment.
wedding day is 3 months away and due to unexpected finanical costs this past year i have realised it will be a struggle to go ahead with the wedding. i am only working part time and my fiance cant pick up another job due to travelling 5 hours a day to and from work. i have tried looking for a better paying job but its very hard. we have only sent out save the date cards so far and i feel if we are going to postpone its better to do so now. we wont lose too much money on deposits etc. my fiance doesnt want to postpone the wedding and said he would rather sell everything we have to go ahead with it, borrowing from family or getting a loan isnt an option. He thinks my wanting to postpone the wedding is coz i dont want to marry him ( as i have been previously married before) he feels like i have doubts, which i dont at all i love him more than anything, but i feel we should wait another year when we r in a better place financially and can have the wedding of our dreams. is this selfish?
how do i explain to him how i feel without ruining our relationship?