Post # 1
Although the way this happened is a long story I will be a jobless teacher in June…in budget strapped California…with NO job openings within miles and miles! I am getting married next March. We have NO wedding money saved because we have only worked to pay off bills and buy our beautiful house we have had for a year. Can’t use a house payment to make invitations with!! So…in a few months I won’t have a paycheck coming and I am so burnt out worrying about it that I just don’t stress about it anymore. It has been such an eye opening experience though. I thought I would be devestated worrying about not having the nice things I wanted (my parents are helping pay for the venue) but all I want is to marry him. We will make it through the rest.
Any other bees in a similar situation? How are you dealing? Keep your hopes up fellow bees!
Post # 3
I’m so sorry to hear your circumstance, Miss Sugar. I truly feel your pain. I too am a teacher. Although my job is secure, I will have to resign since I am plannin to move to live with my husband 3-4 hours south soon after we wed, therefore I have to hunt for a job. I’m so concerned that I won’t be able to find a job. It would be TOOO long of a drive if I wasto keep my current job and still live with my husband. My FI can’t transfer either since he will be stationed to San Diego.
It truly is a sad situation what California has to endure with cuts constantly affecting education. But the thing that matters the most to you is what should be the number one priority and that is finally marrying the one you love. It’s not about the food, the reception, what favor or colors, but that you are becoming one with your husband. I wish you the best in your endeavors.
Post # 4
Miss.Sugar – I got laid off March 6th and I am still jobless… after 3 1/2 years at my job I was so upset. I am getting married in October moving into our apartment May 1st and I am beyond worried about all the bills since we are paying for the wedding ourselves.
Post # 5
Miss. Sugar, I’m so sorry to hear that you will be losing your job once the school year ends. I have a fairly good understanding of the lack of teaching jobs in california as my best friend is a teacher and she too is struggling to find a job as a teacher here in southern Cali. It has been her biggest frustration and it’s hard for me to see her having such a hard time with the whole situation. But I am glad that despite your decrease in income, you are still able to focus on the things that really matter, and that is finally marrying the one you love. You may have to cut back on many aspects of your wedding, but at the end of it all, you will be and Mr. and Mrs. You will be able to get through everything together. I hope and pray you are able to find a job before the next school year starts. But no matter what happens, I wish you love and a beautiful life with your husband-to-bee 😀
Post # 6
I’m so sorry to hear about your situation, it seems like there is such a huge shortage of jobs (and especially in CA…) Just remember that nice weddings are great, but at the end of the day it’s all about you and the Mr. and honestly five years from now would you rather have had a happy, but smaller/more economical wedding or still paying off the credit cards? Good luck finding a job and planning your wedding.
Post # 7
Have you tried online tutoring? this may sound stupid, but I hear that there are always people looking for tutors, and now you can use skype to help people out, and make decent money doing it in the meantime while you look for a job. Sad but true, but if i get laid off, i’m back to waiting tables
Post # 8
So sorry Miss Sugar. Tutoring is a great idea. How about substituting? I don’t know what you teach, but I happen to know reading tutors can make a good hourly wage. (What’s nice there is you can set the hours and if you have kids of your own, you can work as little or as much as you want.)
Post # 9
You might find this blog helpful, at the minimum for inspiration! http://2000dollarwedding.com/
Post # 10
I just want to extend some :::hugs::: for those of you that are having job hardships. 🙁
I do like the suggestions of tutoring. Perhaps posting up some listings in the local paper or high schools to tutor any subject on weekenights or weekends. I think especially during the summer don’t a lot of parents want their kids to beef up on certain subjects? Worth a try for just some extra cash in general not so much to help pay for a wedding. Good Luck, ladies!
Post # 11
I was laid off last November and am still unemployed, getting married this upcoming September. We did have to reconsider some things as soon as I did get laid off but it is like you said, it puts everything into perspective and you really do get a wedding that is about the two of you and your families and friends as opposed to the paper and flowers and all the other material things that can take over a wedding.
Good luck with your job search!!
Post # 12
Thank you ladies for all the suggestions and support! The FH and I only see each other on the weekends and just last night we were dancing and laughing in the kitchen! I know we will be ok. It hurts to leave my school and my friends and my paycheck but it certainly gives us a chance to truly lean on each other. We will be lucky if the worst we go through are some jobless months. Thank you bee friends. You have made me want to keep posting!
@kurlynut: I am also living away from my fiance. We live about 2 hours apart, he lives in the house we bought last year and I live with my parents during the week while I teach. It is tough …who knows how much longer we could stay sane living apart?! I hate thinking everything happens for a reason because not everything happens that way but sometimes things seem bad when they aren’t as bad as we think. Thanks for the support 🙂
Post # 13
i will be jobless in july too:( but i make very little now so it won’t affect us much. but it’s going to be tough cause my student loan payments start in a few months…
oh well something will work out 🙂
good luck to you.
Post # 14
Wow, you sound like me, except I’m not in LA. I work for the county, just started in December, and they are starting layoffs in the next month or so. I’m at the bottom of the totem pole in my department, so things don’t look good for me and my (also) March wedding.
Post # 15
Do you have any ECE (early childhood education) credits? If you do, look into getting your ECE teacher’s certificate. The minimum # of units required is 6, for a base level job. The stimulus bill gave CA something like $50 million dollars to expand (not just keep) ECE jobs and centers, so my teachers have been telling me that there are going to be a lot of jobs coming up in the next few months. Just an idea!