Soon to be Mother In-Law is ruining plans

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@KrissyKris:  I can just see your FMIL doing something to ruin your dress hun. She already show she does not listen to you. Give the dress to your mother. Your FMIL does not need to know or needs no explanation.

Post # 4
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I disagree I so would not go there. Just keep telling her and it will get through. You don’t want to start your marriage out with an all out family war!

Post # 5
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3295 posts
Sugar bee

Go to your mother. Let her do it the way you want it done.

Post # 6
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47 posts
Newbee

I wouldn’t just up and take it to your mother. It would cause trouble for sure. If she isn’t going to listen and make the changes you want have your mother contact her and say that she really wants to be the one to alter it as a mother daughter thing. That way she doesn’t get her feelings hurt or have a reason to get angry. A tiny white lie but I’m sure your mom would love to help any way!

Post # 6
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596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Do not let your FMIL touch your dress. It is none of her damn business in the first place. If she does not feel honored to even be a part of things then she doesn’t get to be. Your own mother is so much more important. And she cares about you, unlike your FMIL.

Stop telling her anything about your wedding or letting her find out. Too bad you cannot change the venue. Do NOT let her get ready with you that morning. You may be nervous or stressed and do not need her making it worse.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Exactly what MsMidwesternCharm:  said! Get your mother to contact FMIL and have her say she feels like she’s missing out on the mother/daughter bonding chance with altering the dress. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

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