- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So I’ve known her for 5 yrs and she’s always been intrusive and obnoxious, telling me what I want and don’t – doesn’t get hints, clues, even when you say “no” she doesn’t get it.
So the idea was SMALL inimate ceremony, just my mom, dad, sister & her husband, my fiance’s parents and his brother. We’d do this in the backyard of the MIL yard as they have 1 acre in prime land and it’s beautiful. Well after that discussion, me and my fiance were talking about a small wedding party the day after, NOT reception. Just a party to share with our friends, very casual and no formalities at all. The MIL started screaming at me cause I didn’t want a party tent or a dance floor outside, she got mad and said I’m stupid to think no one would want to dance. No one will. Then she proceeded to tell us that we’re doing the mother-son dance and daddy-daughter dance and me and my fiance are both very adiment on NONE of that, we HATE teh spotlight on us.
So as the time goes on, I ignore her to an extent and try to meet halfway – without luck. But eventually her hubby talks her out of some things which tones everything down.
Onto the wedding dress – I bought mine online from China cause I wanted a summer wedding dress and I fell in love with it. So she got upset at the fact I didn’t goto a bridal salon and try on $2000.00 dresses for my tiny backyard wedding and no reception party. Then she tells me she’ll help me alter the dress (as she’s a sewing wizard). I get the dress and it needs to be hemmed all the way up to my knee’s and the straps are too short (I need them lengthened) and the boning and lining on the inside of the bodice I want gone – for comfort. She starts telling me how the straps should be off the shoulder and the dress is SUPPOSE to be higher (which I don’t want), I kept saying, “I don’t care, I want it how I want it, it’s my dress and I want it comfortable” so she’s being a bully and telling me how she’s going to do it and how the red sash I want will look bad, constantly saying “are you sure you want that red there? Really? Why not leave it out”
My mum lives 4 hours away plus a ferry ride and I want to bring my dress to her and have her do it, because my mum will listen to me and understand it’s MY dress. Do you think the MIL will freak out if I have my mum do it? My mum has dibbs over the MIL for the bride rights right?