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  I just finished the first episode of TLC's 'Sister Wives'. I first want to say that I usually am I very open person to others lifestyles, beliefs and traditions but for some reason I am about in tears right now after watching this episode. (It very well could be my raging preggo hormones!) But watching those 4 woman share 1 man just really saddend me. I love my husband so much that just the thought of him with another woman is heartbreaking! At the same time though, I realize I feel this way because of my up own upbringing, beliefs and teachings so I'm trying to be open. I'm really wondering what other ladies take on this show may be.

  Did you see where one of the wives was incredibly hurt over the fact that Kody sealed the engagement with another wife with a kiss?? Do you think this might have been some sort of jealousy or another issue??

  I must admit that their kids seemed very well behaved and respectful. Thats something that you don't see too often anymore. Do you think their parents beliefs have any effect on that? They seem to be doing a good job on raising kids. So does that mean that raising children in a Polygamist (Sorry for spelling!) family has a minimal effect on how a child will behave?

  We are finally getting to a point in America where Gay marriges/relationships and racial differences are becoming more and more accepted. Although I know we still have a long way to go. Do you think that in 50 years from now this will be looked at the same? Do you think one day this will be accepted mainstream?

 Could you accept your husband or SO being with you and someone else?

 Oh I'm so curious on others perspectives!

I haven't seen the show, but have watched Big Love and read a lot about this version of the LDS life. I just can't get behind this lifestyle. I would be okay with it if the women were allowed to share men, too, or even share each other. But there is a strange, inherent power imbalance at work here that gives me the heebie-jeebies as a feminist. I'm okay with polyamory - not for me, but if it works for others, that's fine! - but this is NOT that. This is a guy having loads of kids but only one legal wife - I imagine the other wives get some sort of $$ assistance from the government, because they don't have to list him as their husband (at least before TLC presumably started footing part of the bill). It's just strange all around to me. Anyone have more information or personal experience with this kind of household?

@MrsSl82be: Most of the kids go to school so she doesnt stay home with all 12 all day.

 @noodlesploosh: The polygamists on Sister Wives are not part of LDS. It's some other religion. Can't remember.

All of the wives were either brought up in this lifestyle or saw it regularly so they obviously dont think it's crazy. They grew up seeing they're dads with multiple wives so they're use to it. All of us, on the other hand, didnt grow up with that so of course we think its crazy! So no, I would definately not accept my FH being with other women. because its not MY religion. I think the show is interesting. I watched it out of pure curiosity. I'm a "to each their own" vote about this show.

I also watched the show, and I am from Utah. Just a couple hours south of where the show is filmed. I actually live about an hour from Colorado City, which is considered to the polygamy capital. Warren Jeffs (the prophet, church leader) of the Fundamentalist Church of Latter-day Saints. (The fundamentalist sect of the Mormon church) lived there until he was arrested on charges of rape and other things because of his polygamous practices. I know a lot of people who are involved in a polygamous lifestyle, and I grew up with it always being in the shadows of the culture I grew up in. I, myself, am not religious however. But even growing up in it, I still can't imagine the lifestyle. I am also a pretty jealous person, but I honestly don't see the reasoning behind polygamy.

Back when the LDS church was first founded, many men and women turned to polygamy in situations when a woman's husband had died leaving her with many children to raise herself. The church believed that a man's place is to take care of a woman, so they encouraged men who were able to take on more than one wife to help her financially and to be a father for her children. After the church became established in Utah, and people prospered, there was no reason for polygamy anymore so the church renounced its practices.

However, the fundamentalist branch broke off and still practicies it regularly. I went to college with a girl whose parents are polygamists and she married one herself. She is his first wife however, and they have yet to take on more, but they are planning on it.

I talked with her about it quite a bit, and I still don't see the reasoning behind it. But I guess if you grow up with the lifestyle, you learn by example and most kids tend to follow the example of their parents. Religious beliefs also have a huge influence as well.

Those are just my two cents :)

I watched this for the first time yesterday, and while I wouldn't want to live like that, I am fascinated by the idea. I totally get why someone would want to have that kind of lifestyle. If I could split housework, working and raising kids with two or three other people, I would be the first person on the sign up sheet. If I didn't have to share FI of course.