- 6 years ago
As of Monday this week, I have been engaged. It seemed so unreal to me (explanation coming soon), a little funny, and a little confusing…but I figure now is a good time to share since he is telling HIS family. LOL
Quick recap: After almost a YEAR of meltdowns and just….madness….it finally came to a head at the end of July. For the sake of my sanity and my relationship, I decided to just “do me” and “shut-it-up” and frankly, that is really all I needed to do. Not only was it good for me to reconnect with myself, it was good for him to “sort things out on his own.”
After “doing me” for only a couple of weeks, he sat down with me talking future future future, and managed to slip in being ready to change my last name “soon”. Hmmm..totally confused me…..so I posted something about it. LOL.
Anyway, we had a discussion last year to get married in December of this year, but after all my crazy meltdowns, we decided (I assumed?) that the ship sailed. Apparently, it didn’t.
Sunday evening: We were discussing ideas of how to celebrate my graduation in june 2013 and I made SURE he knew I wanted a gift. He says to me, “How am I supposed to spend money on this gift when I have to spend my life savings on your wedding ring?”
whoa! I giggle and move on because technically, he hadn’t asked.
Monday morning: He brought up my zillion dollar wedding ring AGAIN and as hard as it was not to get excited, I kept calm. He finally says, “When do you expect to get this wedding ring?” Trying to think logically and stay calm I say, “March. I think it would be nice to be engaged before I graduate and my family plans on coming, so it would be a nice way to celebrate.” He just starts laughing….LAUGHING! So I say, “What’s so funny?” He says, “I still want to get married in December. I can’t afford the ring now, but you know I am good for my word and honestly, I have been putting away money little by little so that you will have a nice budget to work with. I want to get married sooner rather than later, with these few weeks of you out and about, I remembered who you were and I want you all over again. Sorry this isn’t some fancy proposal that you probably hear about, but you know me. I love you very much, and want to get this show on the road. Find yourself a nice placeholder ring so that people know you are a married woman, I will payb for it, but please do not think you are stuck with it. Waiting until March for your REAL ring will be worth it, and when your family comes for your graduation, they won’t think I’m some cheap bum. You will be my wife.”
Ahhhhhh!!! I couldn’t friggin believe it. He’s a wonderful man, a sweet man, and with all his surprises a romantic man, but I always knew he wouldn’t be the one to get down on one knee, but that doesn’t matter to me. I’m marrying the man of my dreams in a private ceremony with my parents and the woman who introduced us. In his own way, ESPECIALLY with the seriously WEIRD behavior the past few weeks, I knew something was up after I came back from my ladies weekend….and this was special for us.
After being in denial a few days (don’t ask), he told me this morning that I need to go ahead and get that placeholder ring, make sure I let my people know about what’s going on, and when I make arrangements with the B&B I found to have our ceremony, take his debit card and pay for it. He wants this all done this weekend.
It finally hit me….I am engaged, ladies. 🙂