SOOO Annoyed!! SO Taking My Stuff!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I hate that. At least ask/tell us first!!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Oh gosh. Luckily, my SO doesn’t do anything this bad.. he does take my phone charger or tablet for his own personal use.. which is okay. I’m never okay with loaning things as Ive been burned MANY times.

My brother, however, always used to take my stuff. ALL. THE. TIME. He’d leave it at his friends, girlfriends, apartment, school.. anywhere he felt like it. I’d never see the item again!

It drove me insane.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

ugh i get possessive of my things so i would be so pissed lol

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@westcoast_girl:  DH knows how possesive I am over all my things so he would never attempt to do this lol 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That is SERIOUSLY irritating! II’d make him at LEAST ask first! And to go get the items back if they’re not returned within a reasonable amount of time.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m not at all possessive, so I sort of see your SO’s point. I would give the shirt off my back to just about anybody, even if that meant I’d have to go shirtless in exchange. But my husband is VERY possessive over his stuff, and he gets so pissed if I lend stuff of his away or use it (like his lotion, holy crap does he freak out!).

I see both sides, but I think ultimately he just needs to stop doing that if it bothers you so much. I’ve gotten to the point that I will only lend stuff if my husband okays it first, and if I use something of his that I know he wouldn’t want to me, then I’m extra sneaky 🙂

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@westcoast_girl:  I totally see your point, and I agree; it’s very irritating from your stand point!

He can loan his stuff all he wants, but loaning your stuff (especially to somebody who doesn’t treat it well) is crossing the line.

Hopefully he gets the hint soon and knocks it off!

(Oh, haha, and yep, lotion! He has this minty face lotion that he doesn’t like me to use because it’s expensive & his one “pampering item” lol. You’d have thought I married a gay man! 😛 )

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Honestly, this seems really inconsiderate to me. This definitely would be a huge issue in a relationship for me. It is one thing to lend or give something to a loved one that is genuinely in need, and a whole other thing to give away someone else’s possessions to a careless mooch that will use, abuse, and loose them. Eff that.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I like your plan!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’d be PISSED!! lol

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@westcoast_girl:  gh, that would be really annoying. I like my things and I like my things to always be in the same place. FI makes me mad just when he doesn’t put my things back where they belong, if he was lending them out to someone else I’d go batty.

Which reminds me…one time when I was out of the country my ex-husband lent my car out to his babysitter. His reasoning being that she had to watch our children while I was gone and she didn’t have a car. He never asked, I only found out when I got back and found empty packs of 3 different kinds of cigarettes, left over food, a blanket and a sweatshirt in my car, none of which belonged to me. I was genuinely pissed and he did not know what on earth my problem was.

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