Post # 1
My invites were at my mom’s house so that she could mail them, hand cancelled, from my hometown post office. The hand cancellation was for two reasons: 1 I hate having all the black marks all over the invites, and 2, they are single envelopes, with a tied ribbon inside, so a tad bulky. I had told both of my parents for several days now, hounding them to get them in the mail. I just got off the phone with mom, and she had the post office run them through the regular machine. I am so upset!!! Seriously, crying. (OK, crying does have to do with the fact that I have a kidney infection now too, so I’m not myself).
Her solution? She’ll buy me a wedding present. And when I mentioned that most of the invites will be returned because of the crappy service that USPS offers, I told her that most of the invites will need to be remailed; thankfully she is paying for that (her offer). However, I don’t have time to have them re-calligraphered now. And the calligraphy was beautiful.
I know – it’s just invites. But it’s invites to MY WEDDING and I wanted guests to get them in perfect condition. So why am I so upset?????
Off to order new envelopes – thankfully CatPrint printed double the order that I needed, so I have enough extras for what USPS will butcher.
Rant over. But typing this post brought on a new round of tears. 🙁 Damn kidney infection, GMAT stress, Job Stress and wedding stress all in one day.
Post # 3
Okay, calm down! And I mean that in the nicest way. There’s no need to cry over this.
Your invitations will still be delivered (how do you know they’ll be returned?). And honestly, people don’t really notice the invitations like us brides do.
It’s all going to be okay, I promise!
Post # 4
I understand why you’re upset, but really, is it the end of the world? If USPS weighed out the envelope and made sure there was appropriate postage, why would most of them be returned? Even if they were hand-cancelled, the likelihood that they would have gotten delivered in perfect condition is miniscule. I’m sure no one will care that they weren’t hand cancelled, and they’ll be excited to come to your wedding. Plus, I bet the invitations themselves are gorgeous, and that’s what people will remember.
Post # 5
I’m confused as to how you know they will be returned
I would be frustrated too but most people won’t notice the envelopes.
Post # 6
PPs make very good points. Take a deep breath and realize that in the grand scheme of things invitation envelopes don’t matter at all.
Post # 7
Funny story! I went to the post office yesterday to ask about hand canceling. Since 9/11 and the anthrax scares, they are no longer sorted by hand. Somewhere along the line, they will be run through a machine, no matter if they’re hand canceled or not. I wouldn’t spend any extra money on this. They will notice the calligraphy, which was your choice and will think it is beautiful! They will know that the USPS stuff had nothing to do with you!
I personally have never noticed what the outter envelope looks like beyond the calligraphy. It’s going to be thrown away anyway!
Post # 8
Im pretty sure the crying is brought on by the pain I’m in because I have a kidney infection and I just finished working a 50 hour week. If I wasn’t crying, I’d be really upset. Crying is actually better for me. Because if I’m angry, the whole world knows about it.
I just feel like this is a 100 hour project that just got vetoed at the end.
Post # 9
I’ve known people who worked at the Post Office who told me that even those envelopes labelled “hand stamped” are run through the machine if they will fit. So just rest assured that you saved yourself some money. And people totally won’t notice the envelope, anyway, so don’t stress!
Post # 10
@les105: Glad you’ve heard the same thing!
Post # 11
People throw out outer envelopes. Worry about more important things, like feeling better!
Post # 12
It’s just an envelope. They will keep the invitation not the envelope.
Post # 13
@les105: I heard the same thing about hand-canceling my invites. I was super gung-ho about the idea until I found out that many post offices won’t even do it for you.
@nyscpa2be: Relax. It’s not the end of the world. I was upset when I found out I wouldn’t be able to hand-cancel my invites as well but honestly it’s just one TINY aspect of your wedding that people will NOT notice. I saw some of the received invites and it really wasn’t even THAT bad..
Post # 14
@Mars62312: lol I’m a dope, totally skipped over the fact that you said the same thing!
Post # 15
@nyscpa2be: <you in 3 months> “Remember that time I cried over the wedding envelopes?! Oh my how weddings make you crazy!”
I’ve already cried over our hotel being booked. It’s all consuming TO US…no one else will notice! Cheer up, buttercup and take care of yourself!
Post # 16
My hometown post-office was one of the ones that was part of the anthrax scare so they are ALWAYS sending stuff about what is and isn’t allowed to happen there. One of the things is this: hand-cancelling is basically a thing of the past. It will go through the machine at some point. For wedding invites they try their hardest to make sure it all goes smoothly though.
That said, I never keep the envelope to a wedding invite. I never notice anything about it, and I tend to rip it when I open it. This is one of those things brides get super caught up in but really in the grand scheme is not a big deal or something people will remember.