(Closed) Sooo upset at Mom – invite messup – what to do

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Okay, calm down!  And I mean that in the nicest way.  There’s no need to cry over this.

Your invitations will still be delivered (how do you know they’ll be returned?).  And honestly, people don’t really notice the invitations like us brides do.

It’s all going to be okay, I promise!

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I understand why you’re upset, but really, is it the end of the world?  If USPS weighed out the envelope and made sure there was appropriate postage, why would most of them be returned?  Even if they were hand-cancelled, the likelihood that they would have gotten delivered in perfect condition is miniscule.  I’m sure no one will care that they weren’t hand cancelled, and they’ll be excited to come to your wedding.  Plus, I bet the invitations themselves are gorgeous, and that’s what people will remember.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m confused as to how you know they will be returned

I would be frustrated too but most people won’t notice the envelopes.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

PPs make very good points. Take a deep breath and realize that in the grand scheme of things invitation envelopes don’t matter at all.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Funny story!  I went to the post office yesterday to ask about hand canceling.  Since 9/11 and the anthrax scares, they are no longer sorted by hand.  Somewhere along the line, they will be run through a machine, no matter if they’re hand canceled or not.  I wouldn’t spend any extra money on this.  They will notice the calligraphy, which was your choice and will think it is beautiful!  They will know that the USPS stuff had nothing to do with you!

 

I personally have never noticed what the outter envelope looks like beyond the calligraphy.  It’s going to be thrown away anyway!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve known people who worked at the Post Office who told me that even those envelopes labelled “hand stamped” are run through the machine if they will fit. So just rest assured that you saved yourself some money. And people totally won’t notice the envelope, anyway, so don’t stress!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@les105:  Glad you’ve heard the same thing!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

People throw out outer envelopes. Worry about more important things, like feeling better!

Post # 12
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Busy bee

It’s just an envelope. They will keep the invitation not the envelope.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@les105:  I heard the same thing about hand-canceling my invites. I was super gung-ho about the idea until I found out that many post offices won’t even do it for you. 

@nyscpa2be:  Relax. It’s not the end of the world. I was upset when I found out I wouldn’t be able to hand-cancel my invites as well but honestly it’s just one TINY aspect of your wedding that people will NOT notice. I saw some of the received invites and it really wasn’t even THAT bad..

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Mars62312:  lol I’m a dope, totally skipped over the fact that you said the same thing!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@nyscpa2be:  <you in 3 months>  “Remember that time I cried over the wedding envelopes?!  Oh my how weddings make you crazy!” 

I’ve already cried over our hotel being booked.  It’s all consuming TO US…no one else will notice!  Cheer up, buttercup and take care of yourself!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My hometown post-office was one of the ones that was part of the anthrax scare so they are ALWAYS sending stuff about what is and isn’t allowed to happen there. One of the things is this: hand-cancelling is basically a thing of the past. It will go through the machine at some point.  For wedding invites they try their hardest to make sure it all goes smoothly though.

 

That said, I never keep the envelope to a wedding invite. I never notice anything about it, and I tend to rip it when I open it.  This is one of those things brides get super caught up in but really in the grand scheme is not a big deal or something people will remember.

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