Post # 1
So my fiance’s dad and stepmom (who are both super super SUPER nice) invited us to dinner tomorrow afternoon. They invited us a few days ago, and today they called and asked about if I had any food allergies or anything, and what wine I liked, and it seems like they’re really going out of their way to make sure we both have a nice time. (Did I mention they’re super super nice)?
The problem is that I’m soooo nervous. We’ve been to his fam’s house for holidays and just to visit, so I have no idea why, but I’ve had the nail-biting jitters for days. They’ve never randomly invited us to dinner before. My fiance is excited because he thinks they want to just talk and hear about the wedding plans (he actually used the word EXCITED).
Why am I so nervous? Gah!
Okay confesssion…another part of the reason I’m nervous is because right now his mom and dad/stepmom do not get along, and I like both sides of his fam just fine. So I really don’t want to be caught in the middle if either side offers to help for the wedding in some way. (Right now, we are and have been paying for everything ourselves, and they had casually mentioned before assisting with accomodations, and after three years we are all of a sudden invited to dinner….I’m so nervous! Gah!).
And WHAT am I going to wear?
Post # 3
That’s great!! I’m sure they just want to hear about the wedding and what decisions you’ve made. Try to relax and enjoy your future family! I think you should wear the purple dress you wore in your engagement pics. It’s beautiful and classy and they’ll appreciate that you took the time to look nice for them
Post # 5
I see your point. After 3 years, suddenly an invite to dinner…? It is a little fishy but perhaps it is all in good taste now that you are officially engaged, etc. They seem like very loving and supportive people. That is wonderful!
It could be a tiny ploy to get you aside and see how they can contribute, in which case, you and your fiancé ought to be prepared with a solid response together as a couple. Perhaps to keep it simple, if they offer to contribute, have it be for a very specific thing like the photographer or florist. This way, if another side of the family wishes to help, you eliminate any sort of potential power struggle over who gave the most $$ toward the wedding in general and what percentage of “say” they have as a result.
Wear something simple and classy, and gentle and bright. Think Audrey Hepburn. Oh, and bring a small bouquet of flowers for your hostess and/or a small dessert to enjoy together. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 6
@MrsDulce:lol yea I joined a couple of days ago and have been hooked since!