Post # 1
and broke up..nothing engagement related at all just so many other things and now im confused and scared and justw ant to reassume my comfort position (fetal position).This is the first fight we have ever had in our relationship and I am hoping maybe we can get past it but i dont see how.well guess im gonna be a bee in waiting even longer now
Post # 3
oh sweetie….. sending hugs…..
do you think you 2 can sort it out? it was only after hubby & i first became engaged did we start arguing, we never fought until i got the ring – it was stress & expectation related but we sorted it out so you are not the first one to go thru something like this so take some comfort in that
hopefully things will be much much better in the morning – he might be just as upset & confused as you are right now
Post # 4
I hope so it is some stuff that will take time to get done and be dealt with , but ive already been trying to be patient about ti all dont know how much more patient i can be .
Post # 5
First off, lots of hugs for you. Try to focus on breathing and calming down. Take a warm bath or drink some tea. Once you feel more calm you’ll be able to think things through rationally and not so emotionally. Give him some time to cool off too. When you are both ready to talk, try to stick to only one issue at a time. Remember, love is patient. Good luck.
Post # 6
yes he is coming by later today so we can talk about it more since the fight was on the phone
Post # 7
I hope you work it out. I agree, a hot bath and some tea would be comforting. You’ll both cool down a little and have a long chat. Hopefully, if it’s meant to be, you’ll work out the issues. If not, then sometimes that is best, too, although I do hate to say that. Face to face will be better….and you are right, you can only be patient for so long. I hope you feel better later!
Post # 8
I just want to add that FI and I have *disagreements* all the time, and I’m sure when we’re married, we’ll continue to have disagreements. It’s important not to just break up to make a point or to be hurtful. Although we don’t often have huge blowup fights, what’s important to take away from it is how you solve the issue and repair. If you can repair after this and move on, your relationship will be so much better because of it. Good luck!
Post # 9
hugs! I’m sorry! I hope you guys are able to worth through this, but whatever happens know the hive is here for you!
Post # 10
I agree with Vegas.
FI & I have disagreements. We talk them out and reach solutions. I can’t think of anything he or I would actually do that would cause a blow up. But people snap, people have bad days. If your relationship is strong enough, you will find a way to get past it.
*hugs to you* Let us know how it goes talking to him.
Post # 11
Eek! I hope you are feeling better and that things feel less confusing when you guys can talk face to face. Hang in there and keep us posted. Hugs to you!
Post # 12
I know exactly how you are feeling, I have been there honey! If you ever need to chat I am a PM away. I went through a huge situation with my FI and I and we split up for 4 months. hard hard hard!
A bath and tea and being with someone who can console you until you talk to him will be the best thing you can do until you figure things out
all the best!
Post # 13
Aww, he’s coming over? I hope you two work things out!
Post # 14
Just remember – you never really know the strength of a relationship until it’s tested.
Although my FH and I rarely argue, when we do, we know it’s something we can always get through. We talk about it, listen to eachother, and try to come to a resolution can both be happy with. No relationship is perfect.
I know it’s hard and can be scary when you love someone so much, but you’ll get through this! 🙂
Post # 15
HUGS… I hope your talk goes well. This is a really stressful time in a relationship for as fun as it is supposed to be it makes you face/discuss many hard and deep rooted topics.
Post # 16
I looked at your posts and you got engaged a few weeks ago. Sometimes the beginning of the engagement period is very stressful; all this pressure from family, trying to choose dates, places. FI and I never fought until we got engaged. The first few months were kind of rough, but we smoothed things out. We are now on month 8, and are totally happy.
Just take a deep breath, and step away from the situation. Maybe just take one day away from eachother to calm down and miss each other.