Post # 1
So I’m recently engaged and we have a little under a year to plan our wedding. Obviously people start out asking you when is it and WHO is going to be in it?? First off I love my sorority sisters to death. They are all dynamic and lovely people. However, I cannot ask all of them to be bridesmaids. There is really only one that I would chose to be a bridesmaid. I went the route of having ladies that I love from my childhood that I am closer to with 2 exceptions from college. I don’t want them to be hurt or feel excluded. How can I honor them? There are about 7 of them that I think would expect to be chosen. I was thinking about having them walk down the isle with our sorority color and sit together. Not really sure. HELPPPPP
Post # 3
Someone I know had their sorority sisters in wedding photos and they all dressed in coordinating colors. I think their sorority color… they were not however bridesmaids. The bridesmaids all wore yellow and the sorority sisters wore teal. I think it turned out really well! I don’t know details because I only saw it in photos but I am assuming that they helped with bridesmaid type duties.
Post # 4
Well first of all, I think go with your gut and choose the 1 sorority sister and the childhood friends and few from college you are close to. The most important thing is having people up there you want up there, not that you obliged to be up there.
I understand not wanting to hurt your sorority sisters feelings but I think they will be understanding. Not everyone will have a bridal party of 20 just like not everyone can be invited to the wedding itself. I am sure they will be happy to celebrate on your wedding day with you period. Plus, if they are all invited to the wedding they can all still participate in the pre-wedding parties like bachlorette and showers if people offer to host these for you. Which would make them feel included and part of the fun. Think of it this way, do you expect to be a bridesmaid in all their weddings?
I probably would not have them walk down aisle since they are not part of the bridal party but that’s just my opinion. I don’t think you have to honor them in a specific way, those in attendence will be there to celebrate with you. Other posters may have an idea on how to honor them but I think it might be a bit odd honoring one group that is not in the bridal party because it excludes the rest of the guests.
Post # 5
@thompsonbfilter: None of my sorority sisters are in my bridal party…and I am the president of my alumnae chapter! You can’t include them all, and I am sure that they would understand. How about your sorority’s flower being in your bouquet? I am planning on doing something like either of these two pins on my big day
Post # 6
@thompsonbfilter: It’s a wedding, not a sorority reunion. Just have your best friends.
A true friend will understand that not everyone can be in the bridal party.
To me, walking them down the aisle is a bit over the top. I think a good way to include them is to make sure you get some group photos with them. There’s no rule that says only the bridal party is allowed in the photos.
Post # 7
Pinterest has some cute ideas. One girl set out simple corsages with a framed print asking her sisters to take one.
Post # 8
I would just choose the girls you really want (so 1) and have the rest of your sisters participate in any traditions you do at weddings. I wouldn’t worry about it–most people realize you can’t have everyone.
Post # 9
What about having them sing a song during the ceremony?