SORRY LONG POST Stressed out with fiance's family

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1349 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@weddingbee098:  Ugh.  Yeah, that is pretty annoying.  I feel for you!!!  At least you and your FI seem to be onto them and can just rise above their unfortunate behaviors!

Post # 4
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

How frustrating for you.  My only advice is to STOP GIVING THEM MONEY.  You can do without a couple thousand dollars?  You must be making really good money.  I can’t just give away a few thousand dollars and not bat an eye.  I would stop this before it turns in to more than just a couple thousand.

Post # 6
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Yeah don’t let them borrow money anymore, they obviously have money from the house sale so they should buy a small house or condo ASAP and stop mooching.

As far as the college student brother living with you and not showing appreciation that needs to stop. He can get a part time job and start paying $ for food/rent. It’s YOUR condo and you were nice enough to let him stay there for a bit, he needs to contribute and you need to tell your FI that then have a talk with him.

Post # 7
2052 posts
Buzzing bee


I feel bad for your FI first and foremost…I have parents who don’t always have it ‘together’ financially and if anything happened to my brother or myself, well, we’d be SOL!!!  My parents have also asked to borrow money from me…so I can feel your FI’s pain.

This behavior will drive the other person in the relationship NUTS!  Just ask my guy…he really can’t stand it is and its sooo embarrasing!!  I’m just glad that he sees that it’s my parents and not me, as I’m sure your FI does too.

It’s very tacky for them to have asked about the ring.  Do his parents have a good reason for being broke, like did they pay for their kids education? (mine didn’t haha..just curious).

Sorry you have to deal with this.  And I really commend you for being generous and offering to take in FI’s little brother. 

Hang in there!

Post # 9
324 posts
Helper bee

@weddingbee098:  Can you talk to your FI about his brother? Then he can have a conversation with his brother about showing you appreciation. You definitely deserve that; you’re being super generous!

Post # 11
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sorry you got stuck with duds for in-laws! But CONGRATS on your engagement/wonderful, glittery ring!

Post # 12
3217 posts
Sugar bee

@weddingbee098:  If he won’t stand up for himself (and you, and the brother), then you will face a lifetime of this. 


No one likes confrontation, but sometimes it needs to be done.  Your future is being held back by his family and their need for money and bail outs. 


Good luck.






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