Post # 1
I don’t know what is wrong with me, but I am now understanding the term baby fever. Although I know this isn’t the best time… I am so wanting one. (Never have I been like this in all my life)….
I am a newlywed trying to enjoy it, but I wake up with our baby on my mind, I go to bed wondering about pregnancy….. its never ending!!! I am ready (in my head), but realistically I know I need to get a new job in August and work it a couple years before I take maternity leave….., but I can just imagine my little one in my arms… maybe I should get a puppy seriously. Anyone else had this feeling? How do you cope?
Post # 3
I do! I cope by telling myself a baby will one day be a teenager, and I can’t come to terms with that yet haha. I don’t want to deal with that in the foreseeable future.
Post # 4
@redheadem: haha I may be worst off than you because I sometimes think of my teenage and how he/ she will be… how I will get onto them and what we will do togeher haha
Post # 5
That started in January for me– I always wanted one in the future, but we are planning on starting to try the end of this year, and once we hit the calendar year we were planning on, BOOM. I keep making H remind me of the reasons we are waiting (financial, mostly, which is a hard one for me b/c I think we are fine either way, and just to get a few more things done, vacations taken, before we change our lives forever). It’s hard but since it’s soon, at least I can make sure I’m taking my vitamins and staying/getting healthy.
Post # 6
Oh I am the same way. I got married just a month before you, and babies are all I’m thinking about lately!! Logistically it’s not a great time because Darling Husband and I would like to be more financially stable and I’m in the process of getting my Master’s…but other than the little technical things, I am ready. Getting a puppy did help me a little but I still have baby fever. 😛
Post # 7
Puppies are great! Especially if you have all summer off to train it.
We too are waiting for a better time.
Post # 8
@foodnerd81: aww, at least I am not the only woman out there uh? I know I want one, but then again I am enjoying newlywed life… being able to jump up and go on vacation together whenever we feel like… I enjoy my husband and want him to myself for a while… there are however those times when I just want our baby!
No idea why…. hopefully I will get over it….haha how fun uh?
Post # 9
@Miss Sorbet: haha yes, I am really looking into this puppy thing…although my husband doesn’t like them. Well, he didn’t want any pets, but I got a fish… and named it Blue. He loves Blues and talks to the fish frequently…. therefore, maybe I can slide a puppy in on him too… its got to be a little doggy that doesn’t get very big and is not hyper… I want a sweetiepie…. any suggestions????
but yes, this wanting a baby is serious. I am also in the process of getting my master’s. Will have it by Dec God’s willing. Plus, I am looking for a permanet job, so…. waiting is the very best decision for all of us. Because we I began teaching I think I need to work at least two years or so…. until I get pregnant. I know about a year until I’m covered on the insurance…so, I need to wait and get my priorities together first… but (in my head) I feel ready… (in real life) we should wait.
Post # 10
@PinkMagnolia: yes, yes, I want a little puppy. I saw a sign at the shelter the other day that they have puppies its down the street from my house and I want one… I know if I go to visit I will end up with one. I want it to live in the house as well. But I have no idea how that will go… a long time ago my hubby said his family won’t eat from a house with inside dogs… I won’t let it in the kitchen or anything. I want it house trained… I desire a doggy.
Post # 11
Awww, I’m sure once the time is right, you’ll be a great mom. It’s so wonderful that you’re excited about that next phase in your life.
I’d caution you against getting a puppy for the following reasons – you can decide if they really apply or not:
- Since you are looking for a permanent job, you don’t know what your work situation is going to be yet. Unless your Darling Husband works from home, it could end up being long hours/long commute/not a lot of time at home. That is really tough on a dog, especially a young one. If you get a job close to home with a flexible work schedule (can run home for letting the puppy out mid-day), then that would be a perfect time to get one!
- Obviously you know this, but a dog is soooo different than a fish. If your Darling Husband doesn’t really want any pets, that’s a huge leap.
- Finally, and I think this is the biggest one, since children are so relatively close on the horizon, I’d wait until after you have that established. I can’t tell you how many people who LOVED their dogs so much ended up having to rehome them after their children were born. Either they didn’t have time to balance family + work + pets, or their spouse wasn’t happy with the pet after the baby was born, or having a baby was more work than they thought, etc. For example, one friend just fell pregnant unexpectedly with twins, and they both have demanding jobs. The dog just took too far of a backseat.
I love dogs SOOOO much, I think they’re awesome additions to a family. I’m just thinking with where you’re at in your life, and how much change you’ll have in the immediate future and the next few years, it might be best for everyone to wait until some of those big things are settled. I promise a cute puppy will still be there and would be AWESOME to have grow up with your child. We got our first dog in my family when I was about 5 or 6, and it was PERFECT.
If you do get a puppy though, we MUST see pictures!!
Post # 12
i feel you, I feel like ever since we said I DO all my brain says is “next step: baby”. Let me know if yo find a cure. I have 1 million animals so I just project my baby needs onto them.
Post # 13
Can I play devil’s advocate? If you aren’t working now, then you must be okay living off of one income. Would you consider having a baby now and being able to stay at home for a couple of years. When you enter the workforce you will need to enter at entry level whether it be now or in 2-3yrs.
I swore I was going to wait at least 3-4 yrs before we started trying and then baby fever hit lol
Post # 14
@Kurzweil: I agree about the puppy thing. We have an older dog already (which does satisfy those maternal cravings sometimes, I won’t lie) but we wouldn’t get a young puppy until our kids are old enough to beg for one. I can’t quite imagine having a puppy and a baby to care for– I think having a baby and a super easy going older dog will be a lot!
Post # 15
I get this frequently, and i’m not even married yet (though that is not a huge factor for me). I have always known I wanted children, and I have since a young age been told that my parents couldn’t wait for me to get old enough to have my own children. It got even worse when FI’s brother and his soon-to-be wife announced her pregnancy about a year ago and had their little son 7 months ago. Now I get it in waves – at times I don’t think much about it, others it gets me really down that now is a bad time. I still have a year left in university, and ideally I’d want a job before getting pregnant (for the extra money), though Fiance has said that if I really do want a baby now, he’s happy for us to start TTC. But I know I want to finish my studies. And after my studies are finished, our wedding will be so close, so I’d take the months in between to get a job of some sort and plan our wedding….
I am in one of those baby craving periods now. I’m obsessed! I look at baby stuff on ebay, and I come to the baby section here (which really is a bit of a nono for me, but if you have to…).
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
A bunch of my friends are having/just had babies recently so my newsfeed is filled with baby pictures… and I almost feel like I’m willing this engagement/married but pre-babies time away! Mr. D is insisting we wait at least a year after we get married, and I’m way more antsy than him. We realistically can’t afford a family right now, unless we made some major changes, but I just feel worried that it’s never going to happen for me.
Gah, baby rabies! 🙂