Sort of Team Green… Is this weird?

posted 1 year ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Semi-Team Green. Is it weird?
    Yes, its weird. : (29 votes)
    11 %
    No, its your baby...Do what you'd like! : (155 votes)
    61 %
    Lie and just tell people you're Team Green so they'll shut up. : (68 votes)
    27 %
    Other (Comment Below) : (3 votes)
    1 %
  • Member
    1218 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m not pregnant, but would love to be!

    I get what you’re saying, though. I think I want to be Team Green, but if we happen to find out, I’d keep it a secret from everyone except DH.  I hate a lot of the gendered baby stuff and would prefer neutral gifts.

    Member
    1129 posts
    Bumble bee

    I totally think you are within your rights to find out and not tell, but I think people may feel like you are keeping a secret from them just to keep a secret… I am also not sure I would be able to avoid using He or She once I knew, so that may be why your approach is not as common. 

    I voted your baby, do what you want. May I ask why you are finding out if you don’t want others to know? 

     

    Edit: Just saw your post above. I also dislike all pink or all blue, and we are keeping our names under wraps as well.

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    1246 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think your best bet to avoid frustration with friends/family is to lie and say you are team green.  I know I would be thoroughly annoyed if a friend told me she knew the sex but “couldn’t tell.”  That would be like saying ”I have a secret but I don’t want to tell you.”  That’s just my thoughts though :-)   At the end of the day it’s your baby, your choice!!

    Member
    1218 posts
    Bumble bee

    Here is something interesting:I have a friend who only told a very small group of us that she was (likely) having a boy.  They were “Team Green” according to all of her relatives, coworkers and other friends. 

    One reason was that she and her husband didn’t like the gendered baby clothes such as “daddy’s li’l slugger” or “mommy’s princess” stuff. 

    But the other reason was they had a chance for some kind of genetic defect that involved genitals, somehow.  There was a slim chance their baby could have been sporting a big set of girl parts or some of each sex, even though on ultrasound it looked like a boy.  So to stay safe, they didn’t reveal the sex to everyone until after he was born.

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    873 posts
    Busy bee

    I think it’s your baby so you have a right to do what you like.  However, I voted to lie and tell people you are Team Green so they don’t bug you about it.  Seems easier to me that way. They can’t complain if they think you don’t know either! 

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    152 posts
    Blushing bee

    I don’t think it’s weird to be team green, but I do think it’s weird to find out and then just tell your parents and deliberately keep it from other people.

    If you don’t want “daddy’s li’l slugger” stuff, just return it after you get it, or just deal with it for a little while. Babies grow fast anyway and then you can buy what you want your kid to wear. People will buy you random gifts either way.

    In the vein of this, there is a comedy song (you can find it on youtube, it’s blocked at work or I would link it) It’s called “Pregnant Women are Smug”. Very funny if you want to check it out.

    ETA: I am currently pregnant (and team blue), just so you don’t think I hate pregnant women. :)

    Member
    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’d like to do this very thing whenever we have children. 

    It is your baby, you can do whatever you what. 

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    5129 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I had a friend that did this. She had twins but wouldn’t discuss gender/names. Which is fine, it’s her right, but some people knew…And it made us all feel like, we weren’t important enough and that she had an exclusive group of friends. Which I suppose is her right! But I’d say lie and say you’re team green if you want to avoid that.

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    1554 posts
    Bumble bee

    Personally, I HATE keeping secrets so as soon as we find out the gender we will tell everyone.  

    However, it is YOUR baby.  I don’t see this as being any different than people who keep the baby’s name a secret to avoid people’s opinions on it.  I’m sure your friends and family will be a little upset because everyone is probably curious and excited for you.  

    Being pregnant, I know how annoying it can be to get unsolicited opinions/advice from EVERYONE you see!

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    152 posts
    Blushing bee

    I didn’t mean to imply you were smug, that’s just what it is called. it’s just a funny video about this sort of situation.

     

    try this link http://youtu.be/LbTB3ASkdOo


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