Post # 1
I was just curious if you guys mind if your SO other has hundreds and hundreds of women Facebook friends. My SO had 1050 friends and over 75% of them were women. To me, I think that’s a little inappropriate when you’re in a relationship. I swear he adds every chick in his town and every girl he meets on the street as a FB friend! I have told him for 9 months that I find this very inappropriate and that he should delete some of these woman. After a lot of whining, he has deleted 163 girls in 9 months. By all means have your girl friends on your Facebook but every chick you’ve met in your entire lifetime?! lol. Am I being overbearing? If I had that many men on my FB he would freak!!
Post # 3
My fiance knows everyone and is friends with them all on facebook, including MANY women. I’d say your being a bit overbearing. I would say you have some trust issues if this bothers you.
Post # 4
If I were in your situation, I think I would be ok with this, as long as he wasn’t chatting them all up all the time.
However, if my husband randomly started adding a bunch of chicks, I might raise an eyebrow and question it (since that would be out of his “FB character.”)
Post # 5
My SO doesn’t really use Facebook, he hasn’t been on there in months. But that doesn’t change my answer any since he used to use MySpace (jeesh, we’ve been together for ages). He had a LOT of women on there. It wasn’t that he talked to everyone or anything, he just added people. Did I care? No. I trust him.
Post # 6
I think it’s weird if it’s all these random women but if it they were girls that he actually knew then I’d be fine with it.
Post # 7
It depends if he looks for these women on facebook to add to his facebook…they’re not his actual friends. I would have a problem wtih that…
Post # 8
I’m so glad we don’t have facebook, its soo overrated!!! lol
Post # 9
LOL – DH called me on Monday and told me his ex-wife had just requested him as a friend on FB and asked me if I minded if he accepted. I laughed and asked him why he thought I would care. So yeah, to me it seems a bit ridiculous of either of you to be monitoring the gender of each other’s FB friends unless you have some reason not to trust him, in which case you shouldn’t be with him anyway.
Post # 10
I think it’s a little weird if HE’S the one adding them as friends, but if they have been on there for some time or if they send a friend request to him then I wouldn’t really mind.
Post # 11
My husband doesn’t have facebook but to me the issue is more of a why does he want to talk to and add every girl he meets? Is it a facebook ego thing/self esteem ( some people base their self worth on how many “friends” they have on fB)? He is a big flirt? He is just overly friendly? Also there is a double standard which isn’t fair!
Post # 12
Mr CL’s always been much better friends with girls than guys, so I wouldn’t even bat an eye. I think it’s a bit extreme to be upset by the fact that his FB friends are female.
Post # 13
Wow, he has a lot of friends. My FI has 155 Facebook friends, a lot of whom are mutual, and about half of whom are women. It doesn’t bother me at all.
Post # 14
Eh I don’t care, for a while there my DH played Mafia Wars on FB and was adding people men and women left and right he didn’t know so he could add them for his game playing. I guess I don’t see a big deal about it.
Post # 15
My boyfriend hates facebook, but he has a lot of female he plays with in World of Warcraft. While I’m a giant jealous monster, I can’t knock him for having people on his friends list that just HAPPEN to have a vagina.
I mean, c’mon. I don’t go see the Fast and the Furious for the riviting plotline.
I think it’s about balance. If he was hitting on the girls, or openly disrespecting me? Yeah I’d put the hammer down. If it’s harmless fun and he can respect me it’s all good
Post # 16
I’d be worried if he was adding random women whom he didn ‘t know and he wasn’t adding them because he played a game like Mafia Wars.