(Closed) SO's and Facebook

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you think it's okay for your SO to have hundreds of women on his Facebook?
    Yeah, sure, I don't care! : (101 votes)
    49 %
    Definately not : (52 votes)
    25 %
    Depends (explain) : (55 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My fiance knows everyone and is friends with them all on facebook, including MANY women. I’d say your being a bit overbearing. I would say you have some trust issues if this bothers you.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1306 posts
    Bumble bee

    If I were in your situation, I think I would be ok with this, as long as he wasn’t chatting them all up all the time.   

    However, if my husband randomly started adding a bunch of chicks, I might raise an eyebrow and question it (since that would be out of his “FB character.”)

    Post # 5
    Member
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    My SO doesn’t really use Facebook, he hasn’t been on there in months. But that doesn’t change my answer any since he used to use MySpace (jeesh, we’ve been together for ages). He had a LOT of women on there. It wasn’t that he talked to everyone or anything, he just added people. Did I care? No. I trust him.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think it’s weird if it’s all these random women but if it they were girls that he actually knew then I’d be fine with it.

    Post # 7
    Member
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It depends if he looks for these women on facebook to add to his facebook…they’re not his actual friends. I would have a problem wtih that…

    Post # 8
    Member
    890 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’m so glad we don’t have facebook, its soo overrated!!! lol

    Post # 9
    Member
    1252 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    LOL – DH called me on Monday and told me his ex-wife had just requested him as a friend on FB and asked me if I minded if he accepted.  I laughed and asked him why he thought I would care.  So yeah, to me it seems a bit ridiculous of either of you to be monitoring the gender of each other’s FB friends unless you have some reason not to trust him, in which case you shouldn’t be with him anyway.

    Post # 10
    Member
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think it’s a little weird if HE’S the one adding them as friends, but if they have been on there for some time or if they send a friend request to him then I wouldn’t really mind. 

    Post # 11
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    7293 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My husband doesn’t have facebook but to me the issue is more of a why does he want to talk to and add every girl he meets? Is it a facebook ego thing/self esteem ( some people base their self worth on how many “friends” they have on fB)? He is a big flirt? He is just overly friendly? Also there is a double standard which isn’t fair!

    Post # 12
    Member
    1114 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Mr CL’s always been much better friends with girls than guys, so I wouldn’t even bat an eye.  I think it’s a bit extreme to be upset by the fact that his FB friends are female.

    Post # 13
    Member
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Wow, he has a lot of friends. My FI has 155 Facebook friends, a lot of whom are mutual, and about half of whom are women. It doesn’t bother me at all. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    6825 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Eh I don’t care, for a while there my DH played Mafia Wars on FB and was adding people men and women left and right he didn’t know so he could add them for his game playing. I guess I don’t see a big deal about it. 

    Post # 15
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My boyfriend hates facebook, but he has a lot of female he plays with in World of Warcraft. While I’m a giant jealous monster, I can’t knock him for having people on his friends list that just HAPPEN to have a vagina.

     

    I mean, c’mon. I don’t go see the Fast and the Furious for the riviting plotline.

    I think it’s about balance. If he was hitting on the girls, or openly disrespecting me? Yeah I’d put the hammer down. If it’s harmless fun and he can respect me it’s all good

    Post # 16
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    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’d be worried if he was adding random women whom he didn ‘t know and he wasn’t adding them because he played a game like Mafia Wars.

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