SO's best friend died –

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3407 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m so sorry how terrible!! I would just as you said give your SO sometime and do whatever you can to be there with him.

Do they know the cause of death?

Post # 4
4138 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

🙁 Wow, that’s awful! I’m so sorry you and your SO are going through this. 

Post # 6
4964 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m so sorry to hear this. My best friend passed away while taking a nap last summer.  She was 32, seemingly healthy, and getting married in 2 months. In fact, we had her bachelorette party the weekend before she passed. We did trapeze classes, drank a ton, and walked all around for the whole weekend. 

They found out she had heart disease, but she never really went to the doctor so no one knew and she didn’t have any symptoms. It was (still is) terrible and shocking. 


Since you can’t be with him, just let him know that you are there to talk and be available for him at all times. My FI (then boyfriend) was so great to me after she passed away – slept over every night (we didn’t live together yet) and was there to talk whenever I needed it. Just make sure he knows that he is supported and that you are there for him. 


Post # 7
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@peonyinlove:  Maybe your partner would consider talking with a grief counselor. It would be great if you could be there with him, but I’m assuming you aren’t trained in this area anyway. Support is great, but so is constructive advice about how to deal with it (which he may not take as well from you). It could help him come to terms with his feelings.

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Post # 8
3407 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@peonyinlove:  nothing like this is ever easy, but I hope things get better for everyone soon. Don’t let your SO forget that his friend will always be with him no matter what.

Post # 9
1494 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

oh my god im so sorry… this happened not long ago (about 2 weeks ago i think) to a friend of ours, she was 44 (not old), vegan and the sweetest and purest person we’ve known. Apparently she had a heart attack in her sleep but we dont know why or anything, i dont know if her husband asked for an autopsy… she left her husband and her 8 year old daughter 🙁

Post # 13
2630 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@peonyinlove:  Oh honey, I’m so very sorry for your loss.

Post # 14
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peonyinlove:  I’m so sorry. I would have left early and cried too.

Just be there for your SO to talk to and be a support to him. I lost one of my best friends at 21 and it affected me for a long time.

Post # 15
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

DH’s Best friend died last year, we was also engaged to my best friend. I think the best thing you can do is be a sounding board- just listen to him. I’m sorry for your loss.

Post # 16
2429 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@peonyinlove:  I’m so sorry. It is so difficult to lose someone so early in life, especially someone so young and who seemed to be in great health.

I would encourage you to do little things for your SO this week to try to comfort him — maybe sending a card with a handwritten note? Or something comforting from a vendor like Harry & David? 

It is so hard to watch someone you love so much grieve such a difficult loss, especially when you were close with his friend too. 

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