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posted 1 year ago in Waiting
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    CurlyDreamer    patiently waiting   Bay Area

    I talked to FMIL today. Funny that she would bring it up after our huge, unsuccessful marriage talk this weekend where my SO told me I waa "trippin'" if I thought he didn't want to marry me but I should focus on us because right now "the situation" (meaning his drama) isn't right. Or something like that. I did tell him eventually I would have to come to a decision about my future and since then he's been really... I dunno... attentive? I feel like he's looking at me constantly trying to gauge what I'm thinking.  

    So, then his mom calls and asks, coincidentially, about it? I felt weird. She told me before that she calls me her FDIL, so I assumed they had talked about it, but I guess not? Or maybe they had and she just wanted to see what I would say?

    I was completely honest and told her how I felt. She is so awesome and told me, "eventually he needs to s*** or get off the pot," which is another ironic thing since I used that term here related to it. She said my position was reasonable and that she was going to talk to him. Not as in "marry your girlfriend you freaking idiot," but just to see what he was thinking. She won't tell me, mind you, but I think she's wondering herself since we're pratically married anyway, you know?

    They really are BFFs and talk about everything. I hope he doesn't feel pressured (and told her so) because that's NOT what I want. I do think it's really sweet that she feels so strongly and is worried that he could loose me.

    ETA - I know they talked on the phone before she called me beause I told him I needed some information from her on something, and when we got on the phone she told me< "Let me give you that info before I forget," so I know they had some type of conversation even if not directly about marriage. 

    At this point, I'm not sure what to think of anything. Ladies, care to over analyze every detail of this weekend with me? lol... 

      

     
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    Bee Keeper
    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    care to over analyze every detail of this weekend with me?

    hahahah this made me laugh - goodluck!

     

     
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    armychica06    December 8, 2012   CT

    I think it is a good sign but I can't analyze anything more than that- I hope mama's talk works and help push things along.

     
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    ChicChick      

    I second ArmyChica's opinion in that it's a good sign!!!  It's really awesome that you and your FMIL (hehe) are so close!  :)

     

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