(Closed) SO's mom… (Long, need advice)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

i think she’s freaking out because she’s scared of losing him. spending time together sounds like a good idea. i think she probably just had a gut reaction to the fact that he was not coming to vacation with them and she may not mean half of what she said!

Post # 4
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree she was probably spouting off from her perceived hurt. Try not to let what she said get to you, it’s likely she would lash out at anyone she feels is taking her son away. You both can’t let her hold you back from living your life. I feel bad for the homebody fbil, how sad 🙁

Post # 5
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591 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You have great ideas on how to handle it yourself. Props for not taking offense to anything she said. I agree that she’s probably just having a hard time ‘letting go’ and maybe a serious conversation between your fiance and her would be good. She needs to accept that he is happy with you, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t still love her, just that you’re the new number one in his life. I can understand him wanting to cool down this week too. Honestly, I think when he moves out him and his mom will probably get along BETTER because they’re not seeing each other every single day/she’s not given the opportunity to get on his nerves and vice versa.

Post # 6
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2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

She’s already lost her other kids and now is about to lose her youngest, that’s how she is seeing things. Try to understand that for some parents, their kids leaving home and growing up is extremely hard on them, and for others it’s easier.

Post # 7
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162 posts
Blushing bee

I can understand that his mother is worried about losing her youngest child, blah blah… but quite frankly she’s being ridiculous. An adult man needs to put his serious partner/wife ahead of his mother. Even the Bible says that at marriage a man should leave his parents and cleave to his wife. His mother should understand and respect that, not try to prevent her son from cutting the apron strings and becoming a man. Honestly, how selfish can you get?!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with PP… it’s fantastic that you’re not taking her words personally, and that you recognize that she’s just upset. Have him talk to her like an adult- or she will never treat him like one.

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