- 2 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Ok guys- I’m going to keep this as brief as I can. I am so conflicted and really need some advice.
I’ve been working in my current role in a management spot for almost two years. I’ve excelled in this role, received outstanding, glowing performance reviews, all of my clients love me, I know my job inside and out, I was the senior most staffer, etc. Basically I was an essential piece of the puzzle and never imagined that I would be leaving any time soon.
Well, a new manager came on and things started off well. Even though she eliminated half of the team when she came on board, I stayed, and she was dependent on me and my knowledge. Little by little though, our differences in work philosophies became apparent. She is hands off, laid back, strictly ANTI-micromanagement. I am an extremely detailed, over-communicator, who believes in nipping problems in the bud and having team meetings to have a plan in place. I have brought up extremely critical oversights from a few departments she oversees, and she is typically dismissive, makes excuses, brushes them off, ignores me, or acts annoyed. Eventually, I felt like I was walking on egg shells around her, so instead of coming to her with these problems I was noticing, I would correct them myself. A lot was starting to pile up on my plate.
Eventually, I think she caught on. Even though it wasn’t reducing my quality of work per se, she felt that the tasks that I was doing should be delegated to those that should have been doing them correctly in the first place. She thought that I should do more work pertaining to my specific job role, but never gave me clear directives. Eventually, she decided to change the requirements for my job, and I was no longer qualified.
At first she told me that I didn’t have to go, and she didn’t want me to feel like she was pushing me out. She said she would give me more training. However, she was really really pushing me towards a newly created “creative director” role in the company. After I found out more details, specifically that it was more of a entry level front desk job, I told her that I was not interested and she changed her tune. She got moody and annoyed, and told me that I would have to take tests and assessments and we would review my scores and go from there. Knowing that I would likely not pass these because I have no schooling or training in this department, I declined and accepted the new role.
My pay and benefits remain the same. I feel a little resentful that I’m ending up at a front desk role that I started in over two years ago. However, to stay in the company (which I like), to maintain my benefits and pay (which is good), I would tolerate it.
However, I was then asked to wear a hideous uniform, and that’s when the mic dropped. I haven’t worn a uniform since I worked for a pizza carry-out in highschool. That is not something that I am willing to do. It feels demoralizing to me because I have busted my butt for two years with this company and am coming from a back of the office managment role. I would be extremely unhappy if I were to wear this uniform.
Even though this position was created for me, no one else was considered for it, I was told my several managers that I’m perfect for the role (Ok, they clearly really want me to stay)- I was told that if I’m not willing to wear the uniform, then maybe the job isn’t for me.
So, with my back against the wall, I asked the president of the company for a meeting to discuss this with him. This is a small company, so he is the supervisor to the managers who I would be working for. I want to tell him that I’ve been an essential piece to his company and that I will be extremely unhappy if I have to wear this uniform because it’s not how this job was proposed to me, and I feel like it’s moving back to where I started instead of moving forward in my career. Being forced to wear a uniform would be a complete dealbreaker to me. If I have to wear it, I will do so, but I will immediately begin to look elsewhere for work.
SO my questions are:<br />-should I tell him that I’ve been unhappy with the way my manager has been treating me and should I disclose some really bad things she has done in the workplace that I morally disagree with? (<– that’s a story for another day)<br />-how should I approach the uniform issue? Should I just say that I will be extremely unhappy and I would like him to consider exempting me from the uniform, since this was sold to me as a director position, then baited and switched to a front desk entry level job?
I’m just extremely frustrated and stressed out because if I quit, I’m not eligible for unemployment and I would have to move out of my apartment home (one of my perks is a rent discount).
ALSO- I reviewed my offer letter, and there was a line stating that “my benefits outlined may change at any time with any notice.” This worries me that once I sign the offer letter, they can cancel my rent discount (which would significantly reduce my take home income- which they have already tried to do). Should I tell them that I would like them to strike that line out as part of my agreement?
[B]Here’s the TL;DR version:[/B] was an amazing employee, had a strained relationship with my boss, she changed my job requirement and pushed me out but created a brand new director role. New job is more of an entry-level front desk job. Was about to accept it until I found out a uniform was required. Uniform is a deal-breaker for me. Am meeting with head of company to discuss my concerns. Not sure how to best approach this, and if I should “tattle” on my supervisor for some morally corrupt behaviors.
Thanks in advance for your help!!