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I'm sorry about your disappointment, sweetie 
. I read your previous post about him telling you about his plan. My only advice would be to reassure him that whatever he is able to manage is absolutely fine with you; that you love him and just want to spend your lives together, the way or time in which he proposes isn't important! Let him know that you know he's working hard to save money and prepare for your proposal and that he shouldn't feel like he is letting you down! Your boyfriend sounds really sweet, you're lucky to have him in your life! 
Good luck!
im interested in knowing what are the 7 phases - that sounds like way too much time for me and im not a patient person :)
@HeyKaraoke: FI finally proposed after 6.5 years. There were several times where he almost bought a ring. But I wasn't able to find steady employment; he didn't feel it was right to spend the money on a ring without having another job lined up (which I agree with). He finally bit the bullet and proposed to me three days after I was let go from a job (we had planned our first vacation in over two years...they let me go the day before my trip and told me to have a good time...great employers).
My point is, you KNOW it's going to happen. There is a difference between waiting months and waiting years. As long as you both agree that you want to be engaged and have some sort of timeline you guys should be fine. It's definitely disappointing when things don't go as planned; but maybe that's what is meant to be. When the proposal happens I'm sure he'll plan something awesome!
In the mean time you could get ring pops and give them to each other as promise rings? (No offense intended to those with promise rings. I just thought this was a cute idea....and I really want some candy right now.)
@eloping: LOL you sound just like me. When he told me there were 7 steps I was like, "GET ON WITH IT!" haha. Luckily he doesn't mind my very occasional pushiness!
@Lady Baker: We definitely have a timeline and we know we want to be married, and you're right, it makes it so much easier to wait when we know both of those things :) I just feel bad because he's put all this work into it. But like I've said to him, he could propose in pajamas in the kitchen and it would still be the most wonderful moment of my life. He just doesn't agree with that. Go figure :)
@kirabee: I definitely gave him a pep talk on the phone about how anything he does will be wonderful and not to let this get him down... and then I came to the bee to get my own pep talk, haha! Thanks for the encouragement. And hey, welcome back! :)
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Previously I had posted that SO had a 7-phase proposal plan that he was slowly working through. Well I called him at work tonight for a quick chat and it turns out he had just gotten off the phone with someone involved in the plan, and he might not be able to do it now. He was so upset. He's already put months into this planning and now they're telling him he might not be able to pull it off. He couldn't give me many details about the problem because he wants to keep it a surprise in case they change their minds, but he did say he's been on their website and exchanged several messages with customer support and the issues still aren't resolved.
I'm not as upset about this as he is, because really, I don't care how it happens as long as we end up married eventually, you know? But he was so upset. He had something really special planned and he feels like if he has to come up with a new idea it will never be as good as the original. I feel so bad for him! And I'm a little sad, too, because if he has to start over and plan a new idea, it pushes the proposal - and the wedding - even further away. :(
Is anyone else going through this? How are you feeling about it?