Post # 1
Maybe I am a crazy woman,so I think like this. But, my SO’s sister is giving birth sometime in Feb. The whole family has blocked off this month. No trips, lots of scheduled days off etc. I really want him to propose on Valentine’s Day! It seems like the ideal time because it is a romantic holiday that fits in the timeline we discussed. I also know that I do not want to wait longer than a year to marry but would like a winter wedding. So getting engaged Feb and married in December would be ideal! I haven’t talked to my fiance about it, but I think he won’t do it because it will steal both his sister and my thunder. Do men think like this? We know of a family who had a teenage son get a girl pregnant and the same weekend had the middle son propose to his GF. It was quite hectic to say the least.
Would you be ok with your SO proposing around the same time his sister gave birth? I am just curious. If we waited, he would probably do it May when I finish grad school and things are settled down.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@fainavach1992: Let him propose whenever he wants. If he wants to do it on V Day, he’ll do it. Otherwise, he’ll pick another day and make it special by making that day your proposal date.
Post # 4
Yes men think that way and it’s likely he won’t do it in Feb if his family is making such a big deal out of his sister giving birth. What’s so special about V day anyway? Iit’s so overcommercialized, and you and every other person on the planet would be getting engaged that day, and if he DID do it then you’d know it was coming!
You can still plan a perfectly good wedding if he proposes in march or even april. Maybe you should discuss all this timeline stuff with him though before worrying too hard about it.
Post # 5
@fainavach1992: ….I don’t see how the birth of a child and an engagement in the same month could be seen as anything but wonderful! Joy begets joy, and you getting engaged in no way diminishes this child’s arrival, so I don’t see why someone would schedule a proposal around it.
Post # 6
Hasn’t he already told you he isn’t ready to propose for another six months?
Post # 7
My fiance and I got engaged 5 days after his sister-in-law had their first baby. We weren’t very loud about our engagement at the time to allow them to celebrate the birth with the rest of the family.
Post # 8
@HannahGrace: No. Six months max
Post # 9
@fainavach1992: Oh. In your thread a week ago, you said that he had said in July he would be proposing in a year… so, about six months from now. Sorry, I was confused.