Sould I charge!!!!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Yes it sucks but no you can’t charge them.

Post # 4
42076 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I trust that this is just a vent. I’m sure you know that you can’t charge them.

Post # 5
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That’s annoying.  You probably made your seating chart way too early.  I had to send in my headcount 5 days prior to the wedding, so I finished my seating chart two days before.  After I dropped it off at the venue, four people canceled the day before the wedding.  I wouldn’t be surprised if you had a couple more cancel, since you’re still a month out. 

Post # 8
1951 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Uhm, it’s even more rude to demand money from them. 

It sucks they bailed last minute, but guests can change their mind. They don’t HAVE to attend. 

Post # 10
1631 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Mrsdickinson:  Tell your cousin to bring her boyfrind – If you already paid for the seat I can only imagine she would be too happy to bring him

And – I know you know you can’t charge and that this was a vent so I’ll let it go! 🙂

Post # 11
3633 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had two spouses/significant others not show up the day of the wedding. One “couldn’t get the time off” which was really insulting considering he had known about this for months. Unfortunately, you can’t charge people. If your caterer allows it, you can take the food home. Otherwise, you can see if they can reallocate those meals to your vendors and charge you two less vendor meals.

Post # 12
1696 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Go into the wedding going “this is how much I am willing and able to lose.” That is your budget.


You are not going in expecting to make the money back (though it is nice). If you budget for those 2 people and they don’t come, it sucks but it isn’t the end of the world.


So no, you don’t charge. You express disappointment that they cannot make it, but do not utter a single word about the cost. 

Post # 14
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Mrsdickinson:  i know it’s a bit rude but unfortunately these things happen.  i had 1 person do this just 2 days before the wedding.  my sister broke up with her bf.  i didn’t want to waste $$ on a plate so i told my son that he could invite his best friend who wanted to come all along.  i didn’t bother changing the escort cards and place settings for him.  i just told him that he was going by the name of “A” for the night.  he thought it was great.

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