Hey Bees :) Im not sure where to post this, so admins, please move it if I chose the wrong spot!
Anyways! My SO and I recently moved in together, into my place. I like to be a bit more on the traditional side, and cook, as I love cooking. However, last night SO did something that really suprised me. After I cooked the spaghetti and brought it over to the table, he took one look at it and refused to eat it. I said whats wrong and he goes "I cant eat it like this" I said "Oh no, why did I do something wrong?" and he goes, "no, you just didnt make it like my mom does. You forgot the sour cream." HUH? Id never heard of this, like ever, and we didnt have any sour cream in the house, I had to make him butter noodles and veggies and I felt super bad. SO's mom is German, straight from Germany, and today I read that germans and austrians add sour cream to pastas, however, I didnt come across anything about spaghetti with sour cream.
Have any of you Bees heard of this, done this, or tried this? The combo seems a bit strange, yet interesting to me. Im a bit afraid though! Im not very adventerous!
well I believe that beef stronganoff has sour cream and tomato sauce to make the sauce.
I made baked ziti onces following a recipe that included sour cream, it was delicious!
@BuffaloDots: Ive never had stroganoff. Hm, Ill have to try this.
@mishagirls79: It just never seemed like a good combo to me. Im pretty "safe" when it comes to food. Were you hesitant at all? lol. I just cant get past it, the only thing I put sour cream on are tacos!
Never heard of it before but curious if it is good!
BTW you are much nicer than I am.. If I made something my husband refused to eat he would certainly be making his own buttered noodles. He should at least tried it!
I've never heard of this, but it might be alright (along the same lines as sour cream served with chili). You're a trooper for making him a second dish though, don't know that I'd have been so nice after he said "I can't eat it like this." :)
Yes you're way too nice. I'd be so upset if my husband compared my food to his mom's and said I did it wrong. He would have slept on the couch! lol
I use sour cream in some pasta sauces, but it's by no means essential!
I wouldn't make a habit of making everything 'like his mum does' that is a recipe for disaster.
@justhangingout: It was great. Here is a link to the recipe;
Did you tell him that you're not his mom, and that if you're cooking for him he can either eat it or go to mcdonald's?
Obviously it's a cultural thing to add sour cream to the spaghetti sauce so how would you have known, but a) gross b) he can cook for himself if he wants everything to be a certain way.
@mrs.stormylove: Im curious as well. His mom puts sour cream on everything though, they have a gallon sized container in their fridge. Its crazy! I think he should have tried it too! I mean, I made it, he lives with me now! Haha. I felt bad though that he didnt like it and I guess kinda felt like it was my fault? Haha.
@MalbecMe: I felt kinda bad, he somehow made me feel like I ruined it. Im making spaghetti pie with the left overs and taking it to my grandmom tonight. At least she wont have to cook!
@BuffaloDots: Yeah I was pretty upset, its the first meal I cooked for "us". I guess I should have ran it past him first or something! Not sure haha. It stung a little when he said that! He didnt get any action that night though so he did get punished! Lol.
@SpecialSundae: I can picture it in a cheese sauce, because they contain heavy cream, however, cant picture it in tomato sauce. Do you like it more than the normal sauce?
Keep your sour cream out of my spaghetti!
My mother has a recipe called Beef Supreme that's made with pasta, sour cream and tomatoes, among many other things. It's also topped with cheese.
I could see how sour cream could work in spaghetti.
I've never done it but am not a big fan of sour cream to start with. I am a big fan of spaghetti though! I hope he becomes more accepting of your cooking! It can be tough when you first move in to get used to "different" ways of doing things -- everything from laundry to cooking to cleaning!
Haha! I dont use sour cream, but I DO use cream cheese.. I mix the cream cheese in with with sauce and it melts into the sauce.. it makes the sauce creamier and more yummy!
@justhangingout: No, it's just different. It works really well if you have beef and red wine in the sauce or chicken and red chilli.
@mishagirls79: Thanks! Ill have to try that, he might actually eat it!
@FauxBoho: Agreed. Im not his mom and do not want to be.
@Ellegee: looking back, I actually think I apologized to HIM for making something he didnt like. Oh my Im a pushover! He never cooked for himself, he had dinner at his parents every night when he was living alone. Im not sure he can even operate a stove.
I love sour cream in spaghetti sauce! I also like to substitute greek yogurt (non flavored that is) to make it a bit healtheir. That's pretty ridick that he refused to eat yours, though.
I have never ever heard of this, but I can say if my DH refused to eat what I cooked...then he would be fixing himself dinner that night. lol
I am curious to try out a recipe that would have sour cream in it. Sounds very interesting and I love to cook too, so I'm always looking for new recipes/new things to try.
Stroganoff has beef broth and sour cream. No tomato sauce in there.
That said, a "rose" sauce or "blush" sauce of tomato sauce and heavy cream is a pretty common dish in Italian restaurants and lots of people make it at home. Sour cream can be a good substitute for heavy cream, especially if you get light/reduced fat sour cream because you can get a similar thick, creamy texture with a lot fewer calories. I would just remove whatever sauce from the heat before stirring in the sour cream, and serve it right away, as it does tend to curdle/break if heated too long. I make a dijon sauce for sauteed chicken using chicken broth, sour cream and dijon mustard; it's delicious, and since I use lowfat sour cream it ends up being pretty diet-friendly as opposed to a heavy cream based sauce with hundreds more calories. Also I wouldn't try to do a mock alfredo with just sour cream and parmesan; sour cream's flavor is light enough that it will blend with whatever bold other flavor you have going on, but it's definitely too distinct to stand on its own and taste like anything other than sour cream.
Doesn't sound strange to me. I've also added cream cheese to things like pasta sauce. It just makes them into a creamier version instead of straight tomato sauce. So it's the same concept. It isn't going to make anything taste like sour cream (assuming you don't go crazy with it) it will just make it creamier. If you use light sour cream you can make some lighter sauces with it.
@JsDragonfly: I guess it would be like adding ricotta to a sauce, because ricotta has that rich creaminess (sp?) to it like sourcream. But they dont have the same flavor so Im not sure! I dont have much room to talk, I use cottage cheese in my lasange instead of ricotta to cut on some calories and some may think thats strange, but I just hadnt heard of sour cream lol. I cant get over it. I was so shocked. I wish I had made SO fix his own butter noodles now! Lol.
@fishbone: A lot of (not always entirely authentic) stroganoff recipes call for tomato and paprika too. I've always used tomatoes and Worcestershire sauce as well as beef stock and sour cream.
My dad's friend who's a chef says it should be done with fillet steak, paprika, mushrooms and sour cream and nothing else.
Sounds disgusting - the sour cream and his immature refusal to eat it. What a baby! He should be appreciative you put a meal on the table for him. If he doesn't like what's for dinner he can cook it!
I have made a few terrible meals for my FI and he eats the whole thing and says it's good until I say that was awful and we laugh about it. and even then the worst he will say is "it wasn't my favorite"
I love sour cream, and I think a good sauce could be made with it.
DH and I trade off who cooks. We try to make things that we'll both like, but the rule is that if you don't like it, make dinner yourself!
Yeah I think the real problem here is his refusal to eat it. He is an adult I assume, and therefore should either eat what you offer or make it himself. Maybe ask his mother for the recipe so you can make it another time?
NO!!!! my family is italian and I'm pretty sure my great grandmother would have beaten up anyone who suggested that (she was a feisty lady!).
That's really immature of him not to eat plain tomato sauce, too. I would have said boo-freakin-hoo- you want sour cream, you go get it. You want plain pasta, you make it.
ewww! i'm in favor of sour cream on most things, but pasta with tomato sauce and sour cream? i don't think i can get behind that. i have some german relatives, though, and i know the put sour cream on lots of stuff... so i guess it doesn't shock me.
would he really not eat it because it's not the way his mom makes it? that would bother me more than anything else haha :-\
Oh yeah, I forgot...I agree with PP, he's being a big baby. Tell him he can cook his own dinner from now on if he doesn't like it.
@kes18: Oh definitely! If he doesn't want to eat what you've cooked, let him go hungry... He's not a toddler!
I have a spaghetti pie recipe that has sour cream under the spaghetti sauce, and that tastes good, so I would assume it would taste good mixed together on top of normal spaghetti.
But yeah....if my DH refused to eat something WITHOUT EVEN TRYING IT just because he thought I "made it wrong".....he would be making his own dinner for a long, long time after that. He doesn't have to like everything I make, but if I am going to do 90% of the cooking, he'd darn well better at least try it. If he tries it and doesn't like it, he can have a sandwhich. Like my mother always said, "This is not a restaurant."
BTW- I would get him an apron and a cookbook for christmas. Anyone who is picky enough not to eat plain tomato sauce can decide for themselves what they will and will not eat!
as a few others have mentioned, this whole thing sounds like a problem. your dude needs to chill the f out. he didn't even appreciate the fact that you made dinner? did he thank you after you went back to the kitchen and made him something entirely new? this isn't the 1950s, folks...
@justhangingout: I used to only cook what DH liked when we first moved in together, but I gained like 30lbs! Now if I want chicken, broccoli, and quinoa for dinner, I make that and I don't care what he says about it, but I do also make more DH friendly meals too :)
@justhangingout: I've had lots of different pasta dishes with sour cream. So tasty!!
Try it, you might like it!
Never tried, would be willing. Still kind of rude of your FI not to even attempt eating your cooking just because it's not like how is mom makes it.
@lotto: He is an adult, he just turned 22 last week. Im 20, and weve been together for 2 years. I agree looking back on it that he was being a baby and really childish.
@lanalnoco: That is why he didnt eat it. At the time it hurt because I felt like I wasnt good enough or something, but now Im getting a little angry because I now do realize theres no way I could have known, and I shouldnt have to cater to him like hes a small child.
Some new rules might have to be established tonight,...
@September29: He actually did not even thank me. It was almost like he expected it. Like he genuinly thought I messed up dinner and what I made was unedible. And then the rest of the evening he acted like it was all fine and dandy. Granted, I did as well, but he should have felt a little bad for upsetting me, he could tell I was upset when he wouldnt try my cooking.
@MissFireFlower: I will have to try it, it seems I wont be eating regular spaghetti to often, so hopefully I do like it.
@Miss Apricot: I like this, and will be doing this for christmas! Tonight Im going to sit down with him and explain what he did was a jackas* move, and hopefully Ill feel better and he will gain a new perspective!
@justhangingout: Agreed. I don't go in for the mama's boy act. If you wanted to live with someone who does everything just like mommy, you should have stayed at home! lol of course I'm being harsh... maybe this was just a one time fuss. But I still don't like it :-X
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