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Hey girls!
I know there is an old post from rasgoola, but let's reintroduce ourselves! I know that several of my faves from this board (fizicsgirl, rasgoola, and sonipapdi come to mind) have already gotten married...I want to meet you new bees :)
I'm mechiebaby, I'm white but my FI is Tamil/Malaysian, we'll be having a big fat Hindu wedding in Malaysia in 2011. I am currently trying to figure out if I want the whole white wedding deal or not... so far feeling no, but who knows, I have time :)
We got engaged this past July, it was a total surprise, in fact the first words out of my mouth were, "ARE YOU SERIOUS?!" (yes, I know, how sweet and romantic of me hehe) and I can't wait to be married :)
Ok, your turn!
Hi mechiebaby!
I'm MrsPeacock and we're getting married in a fusion ceremony next April. FI is White/Presbyterian and I am South-Asian/Jain. We're having a huge wedding as well (guest list at about 500) and are trying to find ways to meld not only the ceremony but also the reception to incorporate both cultures.
I can't wait to meet other SA brides and bounce ideas off each other!
Hey MrsPeacock!
That's great that you're having a fusion event! wow April is coming up quickly, you must be excited...
Have you met any trouble from either family since you're an interracial couple? Thankfully our parents are very accepting, but I know sometimes it can cause problems. I think it might be a bigger deal if/when we have kids, since both sides will have different expectations for how they should be raised, but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it I guess.. Anyways I'm glad to see you here, hopefully we'll get to hear and see more about your event :)
Hello Bees!
Just thought I'd introduce myself! I'm Meela and I'm planning an Indian fusion wedding. I'm African American and my fiance is Indian so we're attempting to blend our cultures and make a very unique and fun wedding for all!
For anyone planning a fusion wedding I was searching the net yesterday and found a blog called Wedding Nouveau which had lots of real life fusion weddings and some tips and ideas as well. Can't remember the web address though :(
Hey MeelaBeela :) so we're all interracial couples so far! cool...
Come on, I know there must be more people hanging around! Don't be shy :)
Hi all! I'm Miss Sequoia, and I'm Indian-born (Bengali/Tamil), raised all over the place, marrying a Caucasian man (English/German/French) from a small town in upstate NY! We met in college, and we're planning a smallish fusion wedding 2 summers from now (2011). It's going to be fun trying to combine the two!
Big hello to mechiebaby, MeelaBeela, & Mrs. Peacock!
Are we the only four left? Whoa!
hehehe I think we are it for now! I was really hoping there'd be more posts here. I need ideas!!! lol
Wait! There are more posts...from me!
I just joined WeddingBee so I am right on time for this post. But, I'm sorry that I am kind of breaking the interracial trend :-)
I am getting married in DC/MD in September 2010. My fiance and I were both born in Maryland; he is Malayalee and I am Tamilian/Kannadigan. So, there is a bit of a fusion there. We are Catholic so we are incorporating several American and our Malayalee-Tamil traditions in the wedding.
Ohh MEK I'm totally going to bug you about Tamilian traditions!! Vannakum :) Are you going to wear a traditional outfit, or a dress for the church wedding?
@ MissSequoia yay I remember you :) at least the two of us will be around for a while!
Vannakum to you too, Mechiebaby! I'm impressed by your awareness and enthusiasm of our culture. Traditionally, as you might know, we wear colorful, heavy silk sarees. I think I'll stick to off-white, cream, etc but still wear a sari but one that's made out of a softer silk. Or, I've had thoughts of wearing an off-white fusion lengha/gown.
I think I am the only one that is not having a fusion wedding. My FH and I are both Hindu and guju. We are getting next June in Indianapolis. I have been on the haunt for some guidance on how the Hindu wedding ceremonies work and how long they take. My family tries to help but they don't know exactly either. I am hoping at the end of this whole wedding planning process I can create some type of guide for future South Asian brides.
How did I not see this?? I'm a Catholic Kannadigan, born and raised in the Middle east and Canada. FH is white and Protestant.
We will be having a Catholic ceremony but I stuggle with having Indian traditions only because I don't want FH and his family to be out of place so I'm looking for a happy medium.
Like Ms. Peacock we're having a smallish wedding and I keep thinking that when I do something "Indian" people will be looking at me with blank stares and very confused.
Hi everyone!
So great to see other Indian brides - though I'm not Indian myself (Burmese/Australian) my husband's family is Punjabi Hindu. We had a quick court marriage in August and now we're planning our big fat Indian wedding for January 1st 2011 (hopefully!).
We will be incorporating some western and maybe some Burmese traditions, however, I have no idea what any Burmese wedding traditions are - I'll have to consult my grandma!
Mohini41, I can relate to your frustration with the wedding traditions! I've also asked my in-laws what ceremonies should be included and they don't really know because everyone has their own traditions. I think it would be great to compile some sort of guide for future brides to save them this hassle!
Happy to see there's more of us!
@Mohini41 @BriarRose - I totally agree. I tried looking for a book or something explaining the different meanings but was completely unsuccessful... but then again, they vary so much from place to place! Let us know if you end up compiling, or if you'd like help! I can bug my FI's cousin, she recently got married and is very helpful to me :)
Thought I'd update you all... we bumped our wedding up to this year!! For a variety of reasons it works out. For now we're set at June 4 (works out best for our stars), somewhere in Malaysia, his uncles are finding us a place that's open and they'll get back to this (debating between Kuala Lumpur and a smaller city where costs will obviously be lower). I'm loving the South Asian family dynamic here, they TOTALLY want to help us out. I won't have much of a say in anything, but I'll definetely share the details after the fact, if nothing else :)
Hi all:
My FH and I are both Indian, but his family lives in India and mine lives in the U.S. I am going to India next week to meet my future in-laws and do some bridal shopping (in Mumbai and Delhi)! I am real excited and actually nervous as well..
As for the wedding ceremony, I am thinking that we are also going to aim for a fusion one. We want to combine some Hindu traditions with perhaps some from the Southwest/Hispanic. I am still trying to figure that out because combining Bhangra with Mariachi music might be interesting!
I was wondering if I could get your input on the colors for the wedding. It seems like most people like to choose color palettes that are similar to what they are wearing. Is that true? Should I already have some colors in mind before I travel to India? How did you guys come up with your wedding colors?
Many thanks!
Welcome bearlypanda!
A fusion of Hindu and Southwest/Hispanic sounds like fun!
For the colors, we are doing the traiditional red/gold/burnt orange for the ceremony and then shifting to a peacock inspired color scheme for the evening reception. I love the peacock colors but thought that that background might look odd next to my white, red and gold sari for the ceremony. For the reception I am wearing a white wedding dress though, so that should work. My big challenge was finding flowers for the bouquet to go with both. I had always wanted peacock/jewel colored flowers but since that will clash with the ceremony we are going with all white for the bouquets and then infusing the colors with the centerpieces.
I have posted on these threads a bit, but just now noticed this one and figured I should introduce myself!
I'm caucasion and my fiance is Indian. My fiance's parents offered to kind of "step back" and let my parents make decisions, so the wedding itself will be pretty traditional "white" wedding with Indian touches (Indian music, ring bearer in Indian attire, etc). The rehearsal dinner will be more of an Indian event. I'm not sure it that really qualifies as fusion . . . but it should be fun! ;)
Hi Wedding Bees,
I've been following this blog for over a year and I can't believe I just discovered the South Asian Board!
I'm 29, born and raised in NJ, and have to plan a traditional Hindu Gujarati ceremony in less than 8 months!
I'm confident I can do it and I'm hoping I can share my knowledge and experience as well as exchange some great ideas with all of you.
My favorite blog so far is maharaniweddings.com in terms of south asian wedding planning. I absolutely love the Indian Wedding Magazines, which have given me many ideas.
Look forward to chatting with all of you!
Hi - I'm Guju, marrying Black (jamaican actually). Just left a long post on another thread about how we're pulling off our fusion wedding off.
in addition to maharaniweddings, you MUST check out marigoldsandmithai.blogspot.com. both are excellent.
love all the intercultural couples out here. generally, indian community is tough to crack through, but if you can it's all love.
Hi everyone! It's nice to see more people come to the S. Asian boards, hopefully we can all help each other out!
Hi ladies! I'm a bit late to the board but thought I'd join. I am half-Lebanese, half-white and Catholic, marrying a Maharastrian Hindu this fall. We are doing back-to-back Catholic and Hindu ceremonies on the same day, and are inviting about 400 guests. I will be wearing a white gown for the Catholic ceremony and a marigold sari for the Hindu ceremony.
So far, my fiance's family has been so warm and accepting of our inter-faith and inter-racial relationship, and I feel so blessed and lucky to be marrying into such a fun and rich culture. I am hoping to have bhangra dancers at our wedding, along with baklava and some other Middle Eastern treats. We are trying to have as much of a fusion wedding as possible. Looks like I am in good company on this board :)
Hi Brides,
I got married on 11/22/09 in Connecticut, I'm Indian and my husband is Pakistani.You would think theres not much difference, but there is :)
It was a beautiful wedding , went by so fast. I hope to give you gals ideas too.
I plan on renting out my decor to brides in the tristate area, let me know if anyones interested.I should be posting up pics and descriptions soon.
Weddings are so much fun to plan :)
Good luck!
Hi bees! *wave* lol
Im planning a big fat indian wedding myself. Both sides are indian, with some very big personalities and opinions but we love each other lol.
Im trying to get my Lehenga made, but not having much luck as the girl is in India...on vacation...and I havent heard from her in weeks.
Im seriously thinking of just getting one from UTSAV, has anyone ordered from them before?
I also tune into a great blog on www.desibrides.ning.com they have great inspiration boards, and DIY stuff that's helped me save a ton so far.
So happy people are chiming in :) I look forward to hearing about all of your weddings!
@hennabee I have ordered from UTSAV, check out the "what are you wearing post" on this board :) Their customer service people are very friendly and accomodating!
I'm American/Caucasian and my new hubby is Indian. We got married in India 3 months ago and our American wedding is in 5 weeks. (For those of you who are white/Indian couples check out gorigirl.com-great blog and forum! It's helped me tremendously! Lots of great wedding/marriage info)
We didn't have a color scheme for our Indian wedding. I wore a red/green lehenga/sari (new hybrid) for the ceremony and a bright pink lehenga for the reception. They were beautiful. We had them made in a few days after arriving in India (Of course that wouldn't be possible here in the U.S.!!)
Our pundit didn't speak English so the entire ceremony was in Hindi and Sanskrit so my groom translated when necessary! :)
Can't wait to hear more info on all of your upcoming weddings!
Well, I'm pretty late joining the board too! I'm Indian and FI is caucasian (English/Belgian) and we're having a fusion wedding i guess but the leanings are more towards the Indian flavor because FI loves all our crazy colors, food and traditions! We're getting married May 2011 and I'm already totally obsessed with wedding planning!
Someone asked a question about wedding colors and I have to say that I feel a bit confused about this too. I LOVE turquoise or peacock blue but I am also pretty sure I will end up in a red and gold dress (FI is pretty set on that request and I do love them too). Will it look weird to have on a red and gold dress and incorporate turquise/peacock blue into those colors?
We had lavender decor for our mandap and reception hall (same room) and I wore red/green and then pink for the reception. Our wedding was in Lucknow at Clark's Avadah and we were told that lavendar and pink are the hottest colors currently. So my opinion is that since most brides wear red, but are using pinks and purples, that it doesn't matter so much. I'm sure if you have blue decor, but wear red/gold it'll look fine. This is just my opinion-curious to see what others think! Peacock blue or turquoise will be beautiful!
Thanks Jenn23 - I think I should go to a fabric store and put different colors together and see what looks good so I can visualize my reception room put together!
@ja7975 Good idea. And browse through lots of Indian reception photos too to see all the color schemes! Good luck!
@mechiebaby thank you!! I finally heard back from the girl I was going to order from, and 2 months later, she came back saying they couldnt make a lehenga with as much detail as I wanted, within my budget. Yuck. Im definitely ordering from Utsav.
hello bees--
i cant believe i didnt use the s asian portion of this site while planning my own wedding! anyways, i got married in july 2009. i am indian-american and my hubby is paki-canadian. we had a beautiful mehndi, wedding, and valima reception that i absolutely loved planning and designing the decor for. to all you bees still in the process, enjoy it (despite all the stress and craziness that comes with it).
Hello hello!
I wanted to join in and introduce myself! I am so excited to have found this board. I knew that the knot as a south asian board, but I had no idea WeddingBee did, too! A friend recommended the site as a great resource and I stumbled upon this board. Yay!
FI and I got engaged in March and we are just starting to figure out where/when to have our big day. We also are trying to figure out whether to have just the traditional Indian ceremony, or also have the "white" American wedding (as FI is white and I am Indian)
So many things to figure out, but it's nice to read about how others are working through some of the same things we are trying to deal with!
Raangoli, many intercultural couples have two ceremonies and then one reception. We would have done this, however, his family lives in India and mine are all here. So we had the first wedding in India in Nov. and then our wedding here in April. Had our families all lived in the states, we would have done both the Hindu and civil ceremony in the same day and had an awesome multi-cultural reception.
Congrats on your engagement! :)
Thanks, Jenn! I think we have decided to do the Hindu ceremony first and then immediately following, we will walk out of the mandap and to the end of the aisle and exchange our "American" style wedding vows. I think it's totally do-able :)
Now to see if we can pull this off for this November, hahah!
Hi Ladies,
I am new to this website. I am Indian and my family is from Rajasthan India and my fiance's family is Gujrati. We just got engaged in June of this year and my parents did not want us to have a long engagement so believe it or not I am planning a wedding in US for November of this year.
I have lots to do. I am getting married in CT, I was wondering if you all have any vendor names (local in CT, NY, NJ)
I am definitely having a hard time with the costs of everything. Both of our families are splitting the cost of the wedding so it is a bit easier but it is totally amazing as how much weddings cost... ugh:( ... hopefully we can pull this off in 5 mths or so.
I am going to Edison NJ this weekend to do some shopping for myself, if not I will be traveling to India. 
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Hi Shilpa!
Congratulations on your engagement! You definitely have a lot to do, but surprisingly we have been having an OK time with finding vendors in NJ. (We got engaged in March, officially started planning at the end of May for our wedding which looks like it's one week before yours!)
First, I highly recommend you choose and book your venue...they may also have suggestions for vendors for you!
As for vendors, we have spoken to two decorators (for mandap, reception, etc.) that I would recommend (we haven't decided yet which to use, but both are great!)
1) Mandap USA www.mandapusa.com
2) All Event Decorators (came recommended by our venue) http://alleventdecorators.com
I love our photographer, Sandeep: http://www.bestphotog.com/
Hope that helps a bit!
Raangoli,
Thanks so much we have picked our venue, food, location for Garba (the night before) and now we have to pick the other things like mandap, DJ and photographer.
Thanks again for the recommendations I really appreciate it.
Oh my goodness welcome all the new South Asian/marrying S. Asian Bees!! It's so nice to have you here!
I'm Indian, marrying a European-American boy and we're having a fusion ceremony/reception -- we'll see how it all goes! I'm excited to see what you ladies plan!
Hi everyone!
I am very new to these boards and very newly engaged (as of two weeks ago)!!
I am a US-born Telegu marrying a US-born Guju -- we definitely want a traditional wedding (with the Garba/Sangeet, Mehndi, Baraat, etc.), but we're planning to do it in the Caribbean! So far, I've scouted a few destination wedding planners, but could really use some advice from anyone who is planning to do the same or has attended an Indian destination wedding. We're planning to get married Dec 2011 and have a lot to figure out between now and then.
Looking forward to hearing from you ladies and see what we can come up with!!
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