South Asian fusion wedding ideas?

posted 2 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 2
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Newbee

Hi – congrats on your engagement! I am not engaged yet, but II’ve been helping my best friend plan her wedding so it’s got me thinking about my own a bit (at least on pinterest!)

I am British-born Indian and my BF is Scottish, so our wedding is going to be very culturally mixed. I’ve also only been to a couple of Indian weddings, but I think in yours and my case this might be a blessing as we don’t have to fit in to a set mould. 

even though we’re not engaged and not planning to get married for a while, BF and I have chatted about what we might do and here are a few things we’ve come up with to try and ‘fuse’ our cultures – one big wedding weekend with:

– a mendhi ceremony including all the family and wedding party not just the women to make it more inclusive

– two ceremonies in one day – Vedic Hindu ceremony in early afternoon with both of us wearing traditional Indian bridal, then a cocktail hour with a fusion band and canapes, then later afternoon the western wedding with me in a western dress (though I plan to have it made out of cream sari material!) and him in his kilt. all guests invited to both but with option on the invitation to come to either one or both. 

– a sit down dinner post western ceremony with both indian and scottish food on offer

– reeling and garba! 

– keeping the mandap for both ceremonies not just the hindu one (we want to get married outside)

– the Vedic ceremony is only 45 mins to an hour so not nearly as long as the usual Hindu one – is that an option for you if you’re concerned about the time?

– Mixing Indian/Scottish colours, e.g, having marigolds and jasmine as well as scottish thistle in my bouquet! 

– bridesmaids wearing dresses made out of sari material

I hope this is helpful. my best advice to you is not to think about how south asian weddings are ‘usually’ done and to do what feels right to you and your fiance! Good luck – would love to hear how you get one. 

 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

fader: We are probably having two completely different ceremonies, on different dates, in different hemishperes but that is for other reasons. I bet there are loads of ways to ‘fuse’ the cultures. For example, if you love red and gold, you could wear that colour in a western style dress to your JP ceremony, or a white saree/dress made with saree material. You could use similar flowers/reuse the flower arrangements in which ever colours you prefer to give continuity to the look of your two ceremonies?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

fader: Where are you buying your outfits from? Are you getting lehenga or saree or something else? For your ‘main’ outfit what is traditional for your background and what will you be considering?

My FMIL was telling me that for the family while RED is traditional rose/maroon/peach or even greens are currently popular…then my fiancé said I have to wear red  so I guess that is decided really. I suppose something different is hard to sell, like ‘oatmeal’ coloured dresses in traditional ‘western’ weddings these days. 

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