Post # 1
are we crazy hive?
hear me out. from the beginning we knew the paper stuff is not where we wanted to sink our budget. we’re paying for our wedding ourselves and plan on starting a family right after tying the knot so the invites, menus, etc were lowwww on the totem pole of $$ priorities.
so i’ve been designing my invites on vistaprint getting them just right so i can use those as a jumping off point for the rest of the stationary for the big day. THEN we found out our pooch has cancer and our already tight budget became cutoffcirculation tight as we’re putting him through chemo hoping for a miracle.
so…the Save-The-Date Cards got the ax. and here’s why:
1. we’re the first to get married in both our families so EVERYONE asks us ALL the time when our wedding is (even people we aren’t planning on inviting – awkwaaard!).
2. we are both dominican (FH is first generation american and i was born over in DR) and most of our family has no concept even of what a STD is so it really would be a waste for about half the guests.
3. even though we’re getting married an hour out of NYC we don’t consider this an out-of-town wedding. for the handful of people who really are out of town (read: out of state), we’ve made sure they have the date on their calendars already.
my ONLY concern is that we are getting married on a Friday so people will have to request at least a half day off work to come to the wedding but we figure we’ll send out the invites 8-10 weeks ahead of time and that should be more than enough time for them to get the time off.
what do you guys think? can we do without? will our wedding be ruined lol?
incidentally, anyone use vistaprint for their invites? were they ok? did you double envelope (if so what size did you use for the second envelope?).
Post # 3
Save-The-Date Cards are a new thing girl! Dont sweat it
Post # 4
We didn’t do save the dates! Just an extra expense in my mind!
Post # 5
Nope, they’re not necessary. Don’t fret, I’ve already been thanked for my “invitations…” Many people don’t expect/know what a Save the Date is. You spread the word so you’re fine!
Post # 6
We skipped them too – saved a couple hundred in stamps and paper necessities. As long as you send the invites out enough ahead of time, you’re fine. 🙂
Post # 7
STD’s are new. My mom had to ask me what they were heehee! I wouldn’t worry about sending them out– we’re not. We are informally inviting our guests by talking to them in person, rather than sending out STD. We figure all the people we will invite we will either see or our parents will talk to long before the actual wedding.
Personally, I feel STD’s are only necessary in some way for destination weddings, or where expensive commuting is required (to give them time to save money).
Post # 8
omg thanks guys!!
i’ve had a few friends get married recently and when i mentioned i wasn’t doing them it was like i said i was going to sacrifice FH at the head table!
i’m not one to panic over the little stuff like this but they were getting to me!!!!
Post # 9
I wouldn’t really worry about it as long as everyone knows well in advance that your wedding is on a Friday. On occasional reminder wouldn’t hurt so that people can request that day off work well in advance.
Post # 10
Don’t worry about it, as said before save the dates are kind of a new thing. I think as long as you send out the invites early enough your guests will understand. We don’t plan to have them either.
Post # 11
I think that’s totally fine! My mom even wondered why I bothered to do Save-The-Date Cards. I decided to do it mainly because ours is on a holiday weekend and I want everyone well aware of where they will be that weekend!! I also have a lot of out of town guests so I did it as a courtesy to them. Otherwise, I think Save-The-Date Cards are pretty unnecessary.