Post # 1
Joely proposed almost 2 weeks ago and for some reason it just occured to me now that I have no idea what I am supposed to do now that I’m engaged!! We know that we are having our wedding at my best friend’s farm at the end of August (giving us 6 months to plan), but that’s about all we know. So it should be clear by now that I am wedding illiterate (haha) and my question is:
What sorts of things is a person supposed to do after they get engaged and before the wedding?
Post # 3
@Miss JoelsBee: well first of all congrats!! enjoy this time. I have found that after becoming engaged, my Fiance’ and I are closer than ever.
Next, register for the knot. You will find a checklist of things to do that really help. Some are stupid and can be removed from the list, but overall it gives you a really really great idea of things you need to be prepared for in the coming months.
GET YOUR DRESS!! After you do that, you will be in wedding mode. I had no clue what to do but became for motivated than ever to search out themes colors and whatnot. It was the precurser to everything that has become my wedding today.
Lastly, stay on this website. These ladies are FAN-FREAKIN-TASTIC and you will get some great ideas and truly find that people on here are very helpful.
Post # 4
I think the most important thing right now is to figure out a budget, and hash out your guest list.
The way we handled the guest list, was we had us, and each of our parents create their “dream” guest list. We were prepared to then whittle it down from there if necessary.
Post # 5
I second @SapphireSun:. Figuring out your guest list and budget early on is key – it will help guide you in many of your wedding decisions going forward. Also take some time to sit down with your fiance and talk about the kind of wedding you want to have. Do you both picture something traditional? Modern? Vintage? What kind of atmosphere do you want to create? Getting those “big picture” type of things done early can really help direct you as you plan. I also second the PPs suggestion to get on the knot & check out their timeline/to-do list. But come back here for the community boards! 🙂
Post # 6
I third @SapphireSun: and @Bubu82:: figure out your budget, theme, colors, and guestlist. What type of wedding are you wanting? Think about where you’d like to have it (church, outside, inside, etc), who you want to be in the wedding party, etc.
Then, go from there! There are lots of great check lists out there and they’ll help A LOT on what to do.
Post # 7
hmm… i guess we’re on the right track then ’cause we know our budget (around $1000), our venue (bff’s farm which is FREE!), and i have a thing for yellow. Sweet! Thanks ladies!! 😀
Post # 8
I agree with dress hunting, it reallty gets you in the right mindset and sort of helps you pick a tone for the wedding.
I got my dress first…then secured a venue then slowly things fell into place
Things I didn’t even want to concern myself with started falling into place! Best thing is I think by waiting and really doing things slowly we’ve found GREAT deals on everything.
Post # 9
I also echo signing up for the Knot web site, the checklist helps a lot. Budget, venue, how many in your bridal party, cater, dj if having a dance. Start looking for a dress. Start looking at dresses for your BM’s. Bakery for your cake if having cake.
Post # 10
Check out 2000dollarwedding.com – they will be really helpful for creating a wonderful, super-thrifty wedding. The Knot’s budgeting tool is NOT very helpful for a budget that’s less than $10,000, in my experience.
Post # 11
Definitely your dress first. Some stores tell you to order your dress nine months before your wedding, and you have only 6 months now. Since you already have your venue, everything can come after the dress.
Post # 12
@Moniquecm: yes I totally freaked out when they told me that. Luckily the sample they had was brand new and fit me like a glove. They didnt want to sell it to me but I offered them cash on the spot and they took it with a quickness.
Post # 13
$1000 isn’t a very large budget so I would first figure out how you plan on allocating the money. Figure out your guest list first and foremost. This will determine a lot about the kind of wedding you choose to have. If it’s a small family thing then maybe y’all provide a meal, if it’s lots of people then maybe you have just a dessert/beverage bar. After you figure out how you want your budget to work, I would look into dresses. Since you only have 6 months, you need to find a dress pretty quickly (especially if you’re not just buying off the rack).
Post # 14
@mightywombat: I don’t know, our budget is less than that and I find the tool very helpful. It helps you keep on track when you should be doing things.
Post # 15
@mg1363: I second that! Ours is a max of 3500 and I’m trying to cut corners and have changed my mind on things I WAS going to get but skipping now due to other life factors (getting a house, TTC…).
You might also want to start thinking about how you’re going to do invites. DIY EVERYTHING (envelopes, invites, etc) or if you’re going to be buying. Remember to add in cost of supplies, too.
I suggest making a list, even if it’s just on a piece of paper and stuck on the fridge (that’s meant for laughs, btw), and including the price of it before deciding that’s what you’re definitely going to do. Otherwise, you might go over budget. (which I have been known to do and that’s why I’M doing that, myself!!)
good luck!!!! and most importantly, have fun!!!
Post # 16
Before setting a date, I suggest you check with your VIP’s (wedding party, immediate family, etc) to check for conflicts. Before contacting venues, caterers, etc, I made a calendar and put our VIP’s events on them, as well as big events here in SF that could cause conflicts for my guests. I then picked the date that worked best.
My FStepBIL AND my FBIL BOTH scheduled their weddings with out bothering to double check calendars (even though we had told them our conflicts!) and they BOTH ended up scheduling their weddings on days my FI and I are already IN other people’s weddings. And my FI was supposed to be his brother’s Best Man…. So the FBIL ended up having to move his wedding.
Wedding planning is SOOO fun! I can’t imagine doing it on only $1000, even with a free venue! Good luck!