Spacer or No? Opinions Needed! Pic Heavy

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I wear the spacer?
    Yes! It is totally worth it to prevent damage. : (16 votes)
    18 %
    Yes! I actually like the way it looks better. : (24 votes)
    27 %
    No! I don't like the way it looks. It is not worth it. : (50 votes)
    56 %
  • Post # 3
    366 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Why not have them soldered so they don’t rub?

    Post # 4
    121 posts
    Blushing bee

    @MsSkater:  I like the spacer a lot with your set! Usually I dnt like them but for you it works well

    Post # 6
    5408 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’m not gonna lie, I don’t really like it. Sorry! If you think that it is indeed causing damage I would have them soldered together. And then if you are concerned about wanting to wear your wedding band alone sometimes, I would get a separate band that can be worn alone. 

    Post # 7
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I love the way the spacer makes the each ring pop and says, “look at me!” Without over powering the whole set.

    Post # 8
    5508 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MsSkater:  won’t the 10k rubbing against your 14k rings damage them as well? :-/

    Post # 9
    4499 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Personally I like it better without the spacer, but I don’t think it looks bad. I just prefer it without. I really don’t want my rings soldered – both because I like the look of the rings being separate and because I want to be able to wear my band alone. Are the scratches a huge deal? I guess it depends how noticeable they are. They should come off everytime you have your rings re-dipped anyway, right?

    Post # 10
    4151 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 1997

    Spacers are crucial, IMO, with many prong-set bands to prevent damage to the ER. I like the look, and it is well worth it to prevent damage and preserve your ability to wear your wedding band separately. 

    Post # 11
    1063 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    Silly question, but what about the spacer causes less damage than the other ring? Softer materials?

    Post # 13
    271 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2018

    As @wrkbrk:  said, the 10k gold would cause damage, I think. When we were buying our wedding bands, a bunch of jewellers told us that we need to get a softer gold for the wedding band so it doesn’t damage my engagement ring, and that the higher the number, the softer the gold. My e-ring is 14k so we went with 18k for my wedding band.

    Post # 14
    3470 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @BlondeMissMolly:  +1 that is the best solution IMO

    why not buy a pretty band that is on the cheaper side to wear to work? Then god forbid if anything should happen to it you won’t have to worry! I don’t think the spacer looks terrible, but I think it looks better with just your E-ring and w-band

    Post # 16
    1839 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    not a fan.  i think if this were my situation, i’d get the rings soldered and then get a new band to wear to work. idk if that’s an option for you or not

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