Post # 1
I am Puerto rican but born in NYC and he is Dominican born and raised in the capital. I have been trying to scour sites looking for Dominican customs since no one from his family was married through the church. He is taking his catholocism classes and we’ll be married on Sept 6th 2009 where he will also receive 1st Communion and Confirmation. I am so lucky to have been able to be with him these past 10 years and now we’ll be together with God’s blessing til the very end.
Anyone know about Dominican catholic customs? Most of the customs I learned of like the lazo was attributed to Mexicans and Ecuadorians.
Post # 3
Dominicans usually have both Padrinos and maid of honor & Best Man. The padrinos are usually an older couple (married to each other or to other people) that help sponser the wedding such as pay for the wedding cake, help pay for other items. I had my "padrinos" put the lasso around my husband and I.
Instead of a rehearsal dinner, my family has a "mondogo party". Essentially before a wedding in the country you would kill various animals the day before in preparation for the wedding feast the following day. The night before they would eat Mondogo "tripe stew" and party into the night. My family usually orders some subs, and we bring out he guitars and everyone sings and laughts and dances. This year some we brought out some wigs, it was a lot of fun.
Another tradition is of the Arras, where a family member gives you some coins to start out your married life. I didn’t use that tradition but my cousin did and had her grandmother give the arras for the blessing during mass.
Good luck with your wedding, if you need any other ideas please let me know!
Post # 4
I am not Dominican but Cuban American & raised catholic. I am getting married outside so I am not fresh on the catholic customs – however, I would assume the Madrina or Padrino thing is right on point. Also find out if his family has a "mantilla" that they may have within the family to place over you at the church for a prayer portion of the ceremony.
Also, "las monedas" is something common for Cuban Catholics – which is the coins you hold together or something like that at the altar & it represents like the sharing of your wealth etc.
Rosaries are also big & they might place that around you instead of the mantilla. Look it up on the internet or consider history/cultural books that might work. Perhaps you can talk to a local Catholic priest in NY perhaps in a Dominican neighborhood (maybe email or jut call or show up) – they can give you information or perhaps give you a number or address for a church in DR that might help.
Good luck! ( LOL Im Catholic Cuban American marrying an Agnostic Irish Texas Boy! – however, he’s all for me integrating my culutre and religion into the ceremony)
Post # 5
Ms. Guava-tini, I’m a dominican who married a mid-western wanna-be cowboy who works for a finance firm in NYC. 🙂 We are in the process of buying our dream house, and all he can think of is the pick-up truck he’s gonna buy once we are out of the city! lol…
Post # 6
Don’t forget Pernil or roasted pork at weddings, very important. We couldn’t get pernil for our reception since it was catered, but I opted for the Roasted suckling pig at the coctail hour.
Post # 7
@Chela429 – LOL! Mine transplanted to Miami about 14 years ago & although he criticizes Miami and its flashy ways & blames it on the hispanics & our love of looking nice – he’s a porsche fanatic & recently got a new one (which he told my Cuban grandfather – "I was smart, I got it before I got married") LOL – The funniest thing about mixed culture/language relationships is when you curse in Spanish but they eventually figure out what it all means! LOL! Sorry ReinaDeAlcantara for taking over the post with unrelated blah blah 🙂
Post # 8
One of my best friends also dominican moved to Miami a few years ago for Grad school and is now married to a Cuban-American. She’s always talking about how hard it is to keep up with her in-laws, they always have designer bags and shoes. She likes living in Aventura cause there are so many New Yorkers there, instead of living closer to Miami like Coral Gables.
Post # 9
I know Dominicans sometimes have the little bride and groom. Your replicas so to speak in addition to ring bearer and flower girl.
Personally and culturally it’s about the music. Merengues and perico ripiao for the DRicans and Salsa and old school african based music (bomba?) for the Pricans.
Post # 10
Las Arras seems to be a very “Latino” tradition. I think the atmosphere/vibe you give keeps it more authentic than the actual traditions themselves. Have you considered using tropical flowers and having traditional foods?
I’m marrying a southern country guy and I’m PR – I’m planning to use orchids and using the arras and I’m having my rosary wrapped around my bouquet as decoration. Also our venue offers arroz con gandules con pernil y platanos madoros.
Post # 11
I am Puerto Rican marrying my gringo. Unfortunately, we will not have any PR food because it is catered. We will, however, be representing with the music. There will be lots of Salsa, Merengue and Bachata playing at the reception. This is key for us! Usually for us PRs it is about the food and the music!