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It's your night if you want a fake sparkler send off I say go for it. Please fireworks are fun, you get to play with fire, I see nothing wrong with that. Go for the fake one tell everyone your leaving get your pictures, drive around the block and come back.
have your send off, drive around the block to McDonalds, pick up nuggets and shakes to go (seriously - from everyone I've talked to, NO ONE gets to eat at their own reception) and come back to the hotel. Park and sneak in the back way, and no one even needs to know you're still there. :)
I wouldn't see anything wrong with a fake one. You guys could even drive off somewhere for a little while to be alone (or to change, but everything will probably be at the hotel) and come back a little later.
Totally go get food if you're hungry, then just come in a back entrance. No sweat! And you get to use your hotel room.
I'd honestly say have your "fake" send off. The photo's will be so worth it! No one will care if you're not really going far, its just fun!
I agree with daydreamwanderer! You don't have to actually LEAVE the building, but the send off is sort of the whole "we are leaving the party now" thing. So have everyone line up outside, do the sparklers and then go in another entrance to the hotel. it IS a big going away, cause you are officially leaving your wedding and going to your honeymoon- even if you aren't going to another location. it is your wedding- have your sparklers!
I think fake send-offs are pretty common these days. For instance, I wanted a special send-off when my hubby and I left the chapel after the ceremony. We got into the limo, drove around the block twice (twice because no one was leaving the chapel!), and then went around the back of the chapel for photos. I know a lot of other brides have done this as well, so I don't see a problem with staging a send-off after your reception. Just have getaway transportation arranged (the best man can drive), go around the block, and then have your groom whisk you back in the hotel through another entrance. Or, if you want to join your remaining guests for an after-party, you can do that, too, before you "retire" to your room :)
Were you planning on going back to the party after your send off?
Do your send off, then drive around the block, let everyone else go in the party, then you go up to your room.
It sounds like you really love the sparkler send off and you'd regret not having that picture in your wedding album.
I agree with everyone else, either fake it or go get some food afterwards then come back! I would definitely stay there that night if it's free and the nicest hotel in town.
Could you try the send off after the ceremony before the reception? the way they do with rice or bubbles?
Do the send off - you sound like you really want it, and there are great suggestions above for making it work.
ps - I suggest going in a back entrance for 2 reasons: 1) privacy and 2) you don't want to get sucked into helping clean stuff up (I know if it were me and I saw Mom and Grandma gathering centerpieces or whatever to take home, I'd be hauling crud around in my white dress before J could tear me away to our room - I just can't let people do stuff for me without helping!)
I agree with doing the send off then driving around the block!
Don't let people know that you are staying there.. then sneak in the back!
I think a fake send off is totally fine! I've actually been to 2 weddings that did that, and one was with sparklers. The couple left for a minute and then met up with us later to go out. It made for super cute pictures, so it's definitely worth it!
My fiance and I attended seven weddings this summer, and not a single one had a real send off. The bride and groom stayed until the very end at every single reception. And I didn't get to be in any send-off pictures. As a guest, I think it would be really fun to do the sparklers thing, even if I knew it was staged. Have your fireworks and your fancy hotel, too!
I like the idea of doing the send off and then entering from a side entrance after your drive around the block or parking lot what have you.
If you are having the wedding in downtown Denver, how about having your sparkler sendoff using one of the horse drawn carriages? You could get into the carriage and then take a ride around downtown....Just tell your driver to drive around for half an hour or so...enough time for the sendoff crowd to disperse...and then he can take you back to the hotel. Downtown Denver in a horsedrawn carriage would be super romantic and an awesome time to wind down before you head on up to the room :)
I LOVE the idea of driving around the block and picking up McDonalds! HA! Thats what I would do!
I LOVE the idea of driving around the block and picking up McDonalds! HA! Thats what I would do!
Have the fake send off and sneak back in! That way no one will bother you with clean up or anything else on your wedding night. Tell everyone you're going far, far away :-)
Oh my gosh, I would completely stage a faux sparkler send off. Who cares if it's not 'real.' If this is something you want, do it!
Just think of the staged send off this way - a lot of photographs are still 'posed' and this one will be too! :)
-Bella
fake it!! I know I'm going to have to, because I plan on being there 'til the end! 
I was a bridesmaid in a wedding this spring that had a "fake" send-off. Except, none of the guests knew it was fake! The bride and groom exited with streamers and went to drive around town for a while. It helped signify the end of the party and encouraged the guests to start leaving. They were spending the night at the reception location and came back later when most of the guests had left. It also let them spend some more quality time with family and the bridal party when they got back. I say go for it, even if you are staying at the same place!
My friend did something similar before. Her and her hubby were staying at the place the reception was held and they still did a send-off. They just drove around, took night time pictures around town with their photog and came back. No need for an after-party cause by then everyone was gone. :)
Thanks so much for your advice everyone! I never even thought of doing the send-off then sneaking back in, I just thought we would all be standing outside after taking the photos, then just be like, 'well let's get back to the party!' This has been so helpful!
can't they do a sparkler send off for you to leave up to the suite? and you wouldn't re-enter the reception? i would totally do that. just becuase you're staying in the same place as the party you shouldn't miss your grand exit!
How about a fake send off and just drive around and sip champagne or something for a few minutes? I think that'd be romantic. Kinda let the day sink in kinda lazy drive.
That's what we are doing. We are having a send off and getting into his dad's convertible and driving around for a bit and then going back to the hotel. I've seen lots of other couples do this.
Also I've seen where they have us do a fake exit and come back in and finish dancing the night away. The photographers usually leave after the big fake exit.
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Hi girls!
OK I'm having a bit of a dilemma, I really really want to have a sparkler send off after the reception, but the hotel where we are having the reception is giving us a free night to stay the night of the wedding. I just don't know what to do! I can't exactly gather everyone up and say, 'ok guys I really just want this photo, so if you could all act like we're leaving and light these sparklers for a moment, then we'll be right back inside!' now can I? I think my options are:
Just suck it up and stay there, no sparkler send off.
Ask if we can use the free room the night before instead, to use as the bridal suite. Then stay at another hotel the night of the wedding. This would let me have the sparkler send off, but the hotel were we are having the wedding is the nicest hotel in Denver! Does it make sense to go stay somewhere less nice, just so we can have a send off?
Have some sort of after-party after the reception, then I suppose we could have the send off and come back to the hotel after the after-party! The only problem with this is I don't really understand after-parties, and I kind of doubt I will want to go out drinking after the wedding.
What do you girls think? Are there any other options I'm not thinking of? Has anyone else had this problem?