Post # 1
Another post made me realize – my mom and my FI, (and me, but to a lesser extent) are paying for the wedding. How on earth does one word that invitation? FI never wants credit for anything, so I suspect we’ll just go with my mom…… Any thoughts?
Post # 3
I don’t think payment has anything to do with hosting these days, in most cases. For example, my parents paid for most of our wedding. DH and I paid for some things, and DMIL paid for some things too. But we came together as a family, planned and hosted as a family, so that is how our invitations read. Like this:
“Together with their families, chercee’s DH & chercee invite you to join them….”
Personally, I would love to see people move away from the invitations that focus on the money, and more on the invitations that focus on the point of marriage – uniting two people, two families, and coming together to celebrate. That’s what matters.
Sorry if that sounds a little soapboxy, but I love my MIL so much, and I would not have wanted her to feel excluded from our invitations because her finances are a bit more limited. It feels like money shaming to me.
Post # 4
@chercee: I think that’s great advice.
Do you want your FI’s parents listed on the invite at all? Just to honor/include them?
Post # 5
When you have multiple people paying/hosting the best option is usually “Together with their families”
Since my parents are paying for the wedding, I will list their name at the top of the invite. They deserve that recognition for their contribution. I would see it as snubbing my parents by using “Together with their families.”