Speaking of invitation wording….

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think payment has anything to do with hosting these days, in most cases. For example, my parents paid for most of our wedding. DH and I paid for some things, and DMIL paid for some things too. But we came together as a family, planned and hosted as a family, so that is how our invitations read. Like this:

“Together with their families, chercee’s DH & chercee invite you to join them….”

Personally, I would love to see people move away from the invitations that focus on the money, and more on the invitations that focus on the point of marriage – uniting two people, two families, and coming together to celebrate. That’s what matters.

Sorry if that sounds a little soapboxy, but I love my MIL so much, and I would not have wanted her to feel excluded from our invitations because her finances are a bit more limited. It feels like money shaming to me.

Post # 4
22125 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

@chercee:  I think that’s great advice.

Do you want your FI’s parents listed on the invite at all? Just to honor/include them?

Post # 5
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

When you have multiple people paying/hosting the best option is usually “Together with their families”

Since my parents are paying for the wedding, I will list their name at the top of the invite. They deserve that recognition for their contribution. I would see it as snubbing my parents by using “Together with their families.”

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