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@sboston06: I would think it was rude unless the meals are different because of an allergy.
I guess my vote would depend on what you're talking about. Is it a dish that means a lot to you and FH? Like the first meal you had together or something similar? I think that would be adorable.
Why would this be done? I would assume that one would be feeding one's guests something that one approves of and finds tasty, so why wouldn't one eat it?
Im not doing it, but my FI is. we're serving steak and salmon plates my fiancee wants both, so he's doing a combo plate, it is more expensive but its still the same foods, just both of them
A friend of mine has some food OCD issues (honestly and truly, I'm not throwing that term around loosely), so she's very limited in her diet. She had chicken fingers at the wedding and everyone thought it was adorable and very "her" since that's basically what she eats 90% of the time it seems. I think if she didn't have that issue and was eating something else, as a guest, I would think it was really strange. I would wonder if you thought the meal wasn't tasty enough or if you didn't like what the rest of us were eating, why you didn't just have a different menu...
Unless you're both vegeterians and you're serving veggies dishes for yourself and meat for everyone else, I don't think it's a good idea. Even if they're of equal quality, your guests won't know this and it may look like you're serving yourselves better than everyone else.
I wouldn't do it, but FI and I don't have allergies, pickiness issues etc...
Let me tell you this, if you are considering this because FI and you are picky eaters, are limited in what you eat etc go ahead and have a different entree. I went to a wedding where the bride and groom tailored the menu to groom's tastes. The groom's tastes are comparable to a little kids tastes...very very very picky. We had ham, scalloped potatoes and peas for dinner. It was weird and didn't taste very good!
are you having a sweetheart table or not? if it's just the two of you, i doubt people will even notice.
i personally woudnlt do that.. but if you hav valid reasons to do so then you shouldnt care what ppl think
No. If you're serving your guests something that you don't want to eat, don't serve it to them. A different meal just "because" makes me think that the food for the guests isn't good enough for the B&G.
If one of the B/G had an allergy, or if the guests were being served seafood and the bride doens't like seafood, then sure. BUT, I wouldn't do it just beacause
It's one thing if you are getting to have both entrees offered to the guests like the one poster mentioned. However if you're having something different entirely than maybe you should consider incorporating the meal you want into your menu somehow instead of having it just for the two of you. Esecially since they seem to be equal in price point.
I'm just curious is all. I've heard of it being done but I've never seen it done.
i'm doing it for the salad and appetizers but only because i have a terrible food allergy (tree nuts) :)
my fiance said the choices that had nuts in them were the best tasting ones, and we asked if they could make me a completely different appetizer, and a slightly different salad and they said yes. we are doing this because i would prefer NOT to use my epi-pen at my wedding!
don't even get me started about the tree nuts..i tried to veto them completely for the wedding but i lost that argument. my fiance will be brushing his teeth after dinner for a good 5 minutes.
aside from my reasoning, i would think it was odd. everyone knows that im allergic, so i dont think anyone will mind.
Ummm, I almost did this but forgot to follow up with the caterer. I took my parents and my MIL to our taste testing. We had a duel plated entree and had decided on prime rib for one choice but were conflicted about the second. Everyone but me really like the sea bass. It was good but I just prefer red fish to white. The caterer offered to make me a salmon fillet while everyone else was served sea bass. Again, I forgot to follow up with the caterer but don't think it would have been a big deal at all.
I think it might look bad. People might wonder why the food they are eating is not good enough for you two to eat. People love to talk and find something to pick apart at weddings so I believe if people notice, they surely will.
I don't think its tacky-- I think its rude. (I picked "totally" in the poll, but I wanted to clarify.) Unless there's an allergy or some other good reason.
I would never eat a completely different meal than my guests. I just don't think it is right. Guests might think there is something wrong with their food, if the bride and groom aren't eating it too. The only time it would be okay, in my opinion, is if the reception was being held at a restaurant and all of the guests including the wedding party and bride and groom were ordering off of a menu.
Well then we most be horrible people because my FI is getting a combo plate! 2 of our entrees are prime rib and baked stuffed shrimp (the 3rd is chicken) - he wants both so he is getting both of them!
@MrsJKH2be: I don't know-- I think that's a little different. It's not like your FH is eating something totally different because he doesn't want what he's feeding to the guests-- he just wants both! lol, I think that's fine.
I don't think anyone is a horrible person...but etiquette-wise, it depends on whether you are hosting the party or whether you are the honored guests. If you are the honored guests (and someone else is throwing the party/paying for it/deciding the details) then it's okay. But if you are deciding to serve yourself something different as the host, it would seem a little rude to me unless what you were eating was *less* appetizing than what you served your guests (such as eating PB & J while they had steak).
Honestly, even if the difference is because of allergies, etc., I would think you would want the food the b&g are eating to be available to others with the same allergies. I don't really see the reasoning behind giving some people a food that others don't get.
I think if it is something different AND nicer than what the guests are eating, it is rude. But that is just my opinion. I know its a day about you two, but if it isn't good enough for you, it shouldn't be good enough for your guests. To each there own though, and I am quite traditional so... yeah!
I don't like the idea of it at all. It's one thing if they both can't have something due to food allergies, and in that case, they should still provide the same thing for everyone. But just to have a different meal because they are the bride and groom is rude, regardless of the price or quality difference, and people will find out and be offended. It also doesn't make sense that you would serve something entirely different for your guests since it does give the impression that your guests aren't as good as you are and thus deserving of a quality meal.
We almost had to do this. FH is really picky and would have never ate anything our venue had on the "wedding" menu and all the chicken dishes had other meats in them that I wouldnt eat. They ended up letting us pick off the original menus they gave us ( not their wedding packages)
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Just curious. Have you ever seen the bride & groom eat a different entree than what's served to the rest of the guests? Would you do this (or have you done it)?
I'm not talking lobster vs. pasta or anything...both items are fairly equal quality.