(Closed) special gifts during speeches

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: do you think this is a good idea?
    yep, great idea, and a sweet touch : (4 votes)
    15 %
    I would just recognise them in the speeches without this : (22 votes)
    85 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Don’t the silk robes count as a gift? 

    I’m not sure about the drinks to be honest..I think mentioning them in the speech will lovely though. 

    Post # 6
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    3267 posts
    Sugar bee

    I actually think it’s a bit impolite to gift them something so publicly.

    If you want to gift them something it should be done in private. otherwise it seperates your guests into different levels, when all guests should be treated equally.

    I do agree that getting them a true gift, something not related to you or your wedding, is in order though. Since what you have currently gotten them is really a gift for you (them looking sharp for your photos).

    Post # 7
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    You’ve already gifted them, so enough already. What bothers me is the speeches. Usually they are very boring for guests to sit through. I would keep all events that are not for everyone to a minimum. Thank them privately. Their special dress shows everyone that these are your honored guests.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’d gift them something over and above the silk robes, as these are meant for getting ready the day of, and therefore not truly a gift for the bridesmaids themselves but rather an addition to their accessories for your wedding. Same for the groomsmens’ cufflinks.  Get each a small gift in addition to those things. 

    But I would NOT present these gifts during the speeches. Partially because the speeches should be kept short, sweet and meaningful and not turned into an awards ceremony, and partially because many of the guests will have no interest in the bridal party gifts. They don’t know the bridal party, and will tune out.

    Post # 9
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @zoberger:  Cash bar is pretty much the norm in the UK.  British weddings in general are quite different to American weddings. So what is a 🙁 here is not always a 🙁 there.

    Post # 12
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    Post # 13
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    2550 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @jemb1986:  I don’t think it pushes it a bit far (maybe in terms of money for you, but not in terms of giving). Dress, shoes, handbag, jewellery, hair, robe are not gifts for them, they’re for you, since it is what you want them to wear at your wedding.

     

    If you can’t afford robes+gift, I say ditch the robes and get a present

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