Post # 1
Right ladies two questions!
– in Wales we have a thing called the open floor which is once the speeches are over any one else can just stand up and say a few words! Now this could either end up being an awkward silence, a few lovely (and not too rambling) words, or an endless list of drunk people raving about us …. and opinions or cunning plans??
– and then proper speeches! So my Da will say a few words as father of the bride, as will my FI and his best man, and then I would just like to say a quick thank you and do my bouquet toss. Simple! And yet …. someone did suggest that 4 speeches was too many (even if mine and my FI’s is just a quick thank you) and that my Da has a tendency to ramble … so we’re going to set a time limit on speeches – but what time limit is good??
– and just generally – are speeches best before or after food? I’ve seen it done both ways and I’m just not sure!!
Thanks girls! and sorry for the long post!
Post # 3
After food for sure, people get anxious for the food. Not too many speeches, cause it loses it’s effect after awhile and people get REALLY bored! I’d say just let the ‘important’ speeches go and leave it at that. But it’s obviously what you want and the crowd who will be there.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant
If you’re having a cocktail hour with food, then speeches before is ok. But if you’re not, then people will get hungry. I would do speeches between courses.
Alternatively, you can split them up. How about dad’s speech before dinner. Allow people to do open floor speeches during dinner. Have people go up to the DJ if they would like to give one. And if no one comes up, then s/he will just play music.
Then you and FI can do your thank yous before or after the cake cutting.
I would encourage you to keep the open floor. The unexpected speeches were about the best part of our wedding.
Post # 5
@tree.hugging.bride: Like you I had seen it done both ways and thought from seeing my best friend do it before the meal at her wedding I thought what a great idea so the men can get rid of their nerves. However, we have now decided to do it the traditional way and have the speeches after the meal for these reasons;
People just want to eat rather than sit through speeches first
It’s easier for the chef to control the timing of the food
The speeches maybe better afterwards as the people doing the speeches have had a glass of wine or two.
Time limit wise i’d say what 10mins max for each person…?