Post # 1
I’m confused as to how to deal with speeches, toasts and when to serve champagne.
Here is our plan (several elements stray from the traditional setup). Dinner starts at 7pm, and my fiancé will be speaking first, we are the ones “hosting” the wedding, and he is going to give the “thank you for coming” type speech typical assigned to the father of the bride.
Others speaking will be my maid of honor, my sister, my dad (likely just a very quick toast), my mom, his brother (best man), his father (in German so no one will understand, so it will then be translated). Each will be staggered throughout the dinner.
Another note, we will cut the cake after dinner and serve it as desert while people are still seated, and then we will move inside for the first dance (dinner is on a terrace at a winery, dancing is indoors in a ballroom).
First question, we have a funny and sentimental speech we will give together, would it be odd for us to do this at the beginning when everyone sits down for dinner (and serve champagne at the same time)?
Second question, if we wait till the end will it seem odd to serve champagne while people are eating their dessert (many will be drinking coffee)? Or will it seem odd that my fiancé speaks twice (at the beginning with a quick toast and then at the end with a longer speech).
Post # 3
I love your funny/sentimental speech idea for the beginning when everyone sits down. I’m wondering why do you have so many people speaking? I understand best man/MOH speeches but I would think if I were a guest, you might have too many people speaking at the wedding and it could get drawn out. I understand that you are staggering the speeches out but it might be a bit much if guests keep getting interrupted at dinner and don’t really get a chance to mingle with the people they are sitting with.
Post # 4
I know it sounds like a lot, but even that list is already slimmed down and there is really no one to cut out (if anything more will be added).
Many of the weddings I’ve been to (in Canada) have at least this number, and my fiance is from Germany, and they sometimes through in random skits or songs (though I have no idea if his family will do this). I actually think that the right type of speeches and toasts can be entertaining and I can’t wait to hear what my friends and family have to say!
Also, there will be lots of time for mingling and socializing our timeline is as follows (our ceremony and reception are all in one location)
5:30pm Cocktails and appetizers
7:00pm Dinner8:00pm Dessert
8:30pm First Dance(garter toss, bouquet toss etc to fall in between)
1:00am Last dance
Post # 5
Any comments from the people who voted “other”
Post # 6
im trying to think what we did for our wedding – once the bridal party came in and we were introduced we went straight into our first dance after that my husband and i both said something before they started serving dinner – we sat down and had our dinner – after the dinner we did the father daughter/ mother son dances then our MOH and BM gave their speeches before we cut the cake.
Maybe you guys could get introduced – have you FI say his thank yous and then go into the dances – (not sure how you are doing dinner) everyone should have drinks already so i would maybe have the everyone do their speeches during dinner, in between courses or something? and then when it comes time to do the cake have the champagne passed out and you and FI could give your speech together before cutting the cake? or cut the cake and have him give his speech while everyone is eating?
some people will leave early some people may head straight for a local bar (or hotel bar if your reception is being held in a hotel) so i would avoid doing a speech at the end.
Post # 7
@totheislnds Good suggestion regarding dancing, however it won’t work as the dance floor and ballroom are inside and we are eating on the terrace. The speeches will be staggered between courses, though we are considering whether to give our own speech last, which would be during dessert before dancing, not at the end of the entire reception 🙂
As for people leaving early, our ceremony and reception are both being held at a winery in a small town (there isn’t a local bar worth going to). Also, the majority of guests are flying in from other countries and the rest have to drive about 70 miles and most will spend the night (small town so the hotel doesn’t have a bar). Out of 100 guests I forsee at least 80 being there for the last dance at 1am! 🙂
My big dilemma is two fold, first when to serve the champagne, before dinner (everyone would have already had a glass or two of wine or beer during the “cocktail hour”) or while dessert is being served? Second, with speeches going on throughout the evening who should be speaking when the champagne is served?
Post # 8
I’m curious, since you say this is common in Canada- how were speeches spread out at other weddings you’ve been to? This also seems like a lot to me, and I’m not sure having them staggered through dinner will be nice for guests because it interrupts them from their meal.
I would say most of the toasts could be around the cake cutting/champagne service. I think champagne should be served during dessert.
Post # 9
I just want to add that DH and I forgot to do a thank you annoucement/speech! I feel awful thinking back on it. I wonder if anyone noticed. however, we did do a goodbye circle near the end. We had a small wedding and got to talk to everyone but still…I really feel that we should have dont this but toally spaced….
I voted above
Post # 10
We are doing ours during dessert, then that’s a good lead-in to our 1st dance…