Post # 1
I just got off the phone and found out my cousin died last night. So many deaths in my family I just dont know what to to do. But also not being selfish with my wedding being in a couple wks what also went through my head is now my wedding will be a sad occassion and my wedding came at such a wrong time. Now everyone will not be coming ughh because paying for funeral costs. I dont know Im rambling.
Post # 3
I’m sorry for your loss! But I wouldn’t see your wedding as a sad occassion. Your family will have time to mourn the loss of your cousin together at the funeral. I would rather see your wedding as an opportunity for everyone to join together and have a reason to celebrate and be happy again.
Post # 4
thank you Im trying to think positive but its also not about me at this time
Post # 5
Your wedding will not be sad occassion. In fact, having everyone gathering together for a good occassion will be a breath of fresh air.
We had this exact thing happen with my family. We had a family member die less than a month before a wedding. It was kind of sad that the person wasn’t there, but it didn’t cloud the entire day. People were happy to get together and celebrate the wedding.
Everything will turn out fine.
Post # 6
@soccergurl: I’m very sorry for your loss. My husband’s father passed away about 6 weeks before our wedding, and it was really difficult. We considered postponing, but it wasn’t really feasible since almost everyone had already made travel plans. There were definitely some parts where it was difficult for him and his mom not to have his dad there, but it was still a wonderful, joyous occasion. We also had serious illnesses prevent our grandmothers from coming. It felt, like yours, that the wedding was at the wrong time, but now that it’s passed, I think it was exactly the right time. Family is so important during the tough times, and having a happy occasion to get together and celebrate will be great for you all. I hope nothing else goes wrong for you guys, and I know you’ll still be able to have a wonderful day!
Post # 7
I’m sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, my cousin also passed away unexpectedly a few weeks before my wedding. Our family was (and still is) devastated. My aunt and uncle and my cousin’s two siblings did not come to the wedding. I wish they could’ve but I understand why they chose not to. Our wedding was still lovely and a VERY happy occasion. Family sticks together, family pulls through. All the best to you and yours.
Post # 8
thanks everyone your making me feel so much better. Even with tears in my eyes I know everything will work out. Its always one thing after another you know just waiting to catch a break.
Post # 9
@soccergurl: I am so very sorry for your loss. 🙁
Post # 10
I’m so sorry for your loss girl. Keep in mind that your wedding will be a nice, joyful occasion for your family to get together and focus on a much happier moment.
Stay strong !
Post # 11
I’m so so sorry for both your loss, and the timing of it. It’s probably very confusing emotionally too. So happy for your wedding, so sad for your cousin.
My future MIL received a terminal diagnosis one month after our engagement and was gone only 6 weeks after that. I received our invitations the day she passed, and it felt awful. That should have been exciting but I didn’t even care except that I was sad I couldn’t show her.
I think our upcoming wedding was/is a good distraction for the family. I only talked about it if someone asked directly. This wasn’t hard because I was also devastated. I really wish we had gotten engaged and married just ONE year before we did/will, she could have been there. (But how to guess that a clean living 59 year old only had months to live?)
You can’t plan for something like this… It’s SOOO not your fault that these events are happening at the same time, and your family knows this. Just roll with it. Your family will probably like a reason to smile.
I’m very very sorry for your loss.