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    Amaryllis    July 2, 2011  

    Anyone else get to a point where you are starting to feel like over spending for convenience? Partly, I stress about getting stuff done and having it look right, and partly I'm just tired of it. I don't want to keep researching LED options to get my paper lanterns as cheap as possible. I don't want to stress that the vellum I picked won't come back in stock in time for me to make my candle luminaries. I really just want to buy regular lanterns and hurricanes from the store so I can stop worrying about them, even though that's more expensive.

    Anyone else feel this way? Did you cave or tough it out?

     
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    iheartnerds    October 9, 2011   Massachusetts

    As much as I want to do things on the cheap, I'm finding I need to spend more to get what I really want. I was going to try to keep my Vistaprint invitations under $40 but I recently decided that I'll probably splurge (we're talking less than $20 more but still!) to get both the invitations and RSVP postcards printed on 100 lb. recycled matte paper. It's silly little things like that, that I couldn't justify spending money on when I first started planning but now that the wedding is just a few months away, I'm like, "you know what? I want that and I'm going to get it!"

     
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    Oribel013690    July 30, 2011   Tennessee

    I hear you on this one!  We originally budgeted $600 for alcohol at our wedding, and then we realized how ridiculously low that number was.  Now I'm struggling to come to terms with spending about $1000 on alcohol knowing that the bar may end up turning into a cash bar anyway, because even that may not be enough.  :P

    We also just moved into our apartment and have been spending quite a bit of money getting new stuff for it.  I'm starting to feel a little queasy at just how much we've been spending recently!

     
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    jo.lee    September 10, 2011   Indianapolis

    I'm not even super close to the wedding yet, and I've noticed it. At first, I was completely committed to making our own centerpieces cheaply. About a month ago, our venue started offering real touch centerpieces for rental, and I jumped on that like none other even though we had about $50 wrapped up in centerpiece supplies already. :P Some things just aren't worth it.

     
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    Amaryllis    July 2, 2011  

    @Oribel013690: Moving is so expensive even without a wedding to worry about. Boo. Alcohol adds up quickly, too.

    @iheartnerds: Exactly! Or I underestimate how taxing it really is to do EVERYTHING yourself. After spending a week and countless hours and being near tears on multiple occasions just for our invites, I'm at the point where I'm like, ya know what, saving that $50 is really not worth my sanity!

     
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    Amaryllis    July 2, 2011  

    @jo.lee: I hear you. I am so scared about my DIY centerpieces. Granted, it's mostly putting flowers into vases and then arranging them, but that is why professionals get paid to do it. And in bridal land, being out $50.00 really isn't so bad even if no where else would that make sense!

     
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    Magsalot    September 3, 2011   Miami,FL

    It's so hard to not want to buy things for the wedding. I honestly feel like since I'm getting married, i should just splurge on certain things. I find it very hard becuase I am a very crafty person and have so many things on my mind.

    I just spent money on a stamp for the back of our invitations and this morning I wojke and said, "do i really need it" and i told myself immediately ABSOLUTELY.

    I say go for it. you can always sell the the stuff you get later on.

     
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    chrispygal    September 4, 2011   MA & ME

    I'm 3 1/2 months out and all these little things that I wanted to get super cheap (votives, silk floral decorations, etc) I am now letting go of and spending more.  I could have saved myself $60+ on the votives, but I wanted 15 hour and felt it was better to spend more money and get what I really wanted.  How pissed would I be if the 10 hour ones didn't last?  I was going to "make" my hanging floral garland on fishing wire and instead bought 26 of them (!) at $5 a pop just so it would be done.  haha.  I am banking on being able to resell some of this stuff afterwards but part of me has just stopped caring so much about the deal.  We have the money saved and while I don't want to waste it needlessly, I am now weighing the time/benefit factor into the equasion.

    That being said, I am physically going to Joann Fabrics numerous times a week to buy pillar candles.  I need about 50 and they are cheaper at Joann's with the 40 or 50% off coupons.  The biggest part of me going in person though is being able to pick out the candle and the color.  I am afraid to order a bunch online and have them be stark white.  So I am dealing with the inconvenience to make sure I get what I want.

     
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    Amaryllis    July 2, 2011  

    @chrispygal: You've basically summed up my feelings, too. I just want it to be done, and while I don't want to waste money, we have it saved and the stress/benefit factor is worth it!

     
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    porcell14    July 2, 2011  

    YES!  I noticed the same thing!  I'm one and a half months away and not only am I spending more money than ever on the wedding (now that I can start ordering things cuz I have a headcount), but I'm also buying clothes for the shower, honeymoon, etc.  I actually opened up a new credit card with an introductory no interest period so I can spend now and worry about it later lol.  Probably not the smartest move but I'm only getting married once!

     

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