spending easter weekend having a miscarriage

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am so sorry for your loss. I know you said you already know this, but please don’t think that the miscarriage was caused by something you did. 

Post # 3
349 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

lilchicana:  I’m so sorry to hear you are experiencing this. I have no words that could make you feel better, but am sending hugs your way.

Post # 4
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m so so sorry. Please know that you’re not alone, it happens way more than women talk about so definitely reach out and get support that you need. I went through this too but much earlier it sounds like. It is absolutely nothing you did. Sending hugs your way as well.

Post # 5
33 posts

I am so sorry.  I had an early miscarriage and I also felt like “if only I didn’t…” but please be kind to yourself and know that it is not anything you did.  Something that helped me was the miscarriage boards on Weddingbee.  The bees on those boards are incredibly supportive.  I’m so sorry you have to go through this.  Know that you are not alone.

Post # 6
2245 posts
Buzzing bee

It is not your fault at all. And I am so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, these things happen and it’s perfectly normal to take a lo of time off to mourn the loss. I can only imagine how painful it is for you right now. (I don’t have kids.) My grandmother miscarried but also had 2 children. It is a difficult thing to go through emotionally. I hope you are getting the support you need from friends, loved ones or a therapist. Wishing you well on your healing journey<3

Post # 7
2614 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

lilchicana:  I’m so sorry you are going through this right now. I had one before Christmas so know what you are going through.

Some of the things I have found

-healing is in your own time. Im much better but there are times when it hits me. Heal in your own time and not when others expect it. It may happen quickly or it may take a long time.

– I was shocked by my anger after mine. Looking up the stages of grief its actually normal.

– unless people have been there they don’t get it. That’s why I found this place great to vent and let it all out. There is a TTC after miscarriage thread that might help you.

Feel free to pm me if you need support 

Post # 8
483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Oh no, I’m sorry 🙁 

Post # 9
9207 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I am so sorry for your loss 🙁

Post # 10
3119 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am so, so sorry for your loss. 

Post # 12
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am sorry for your loss.  I had a miscarriage too.  You didn’t do anything to cause this.  Just take the time you need to grieve. 

Post # 13
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I too spent the weekend recovering from my miscarriage. I had my 9 week ultrasound a week ago, and they couldn’t find a heartbeat, we did find out it was twins. The first two days after finding out I was a mess, but I had my d&c on wed and I’m feeling much better. Still occasionally weepy, not back to 100% but it’s a vast improvement from the morning sickness and heartbreak of last week.  


Ive found short visits with friends really helpful at distracting me, and getting outside for a few walks.  Time is the only thing that will really heal, but don’t feel bad if you’re a mess one minute and happy the next.  There’s nothing you could have done to stop or prevent it, I find some comfort in They probably wouldn’t have survived due to some abnormality.  It’s my second this year, it never gets easier, but you are more aware it can and does happen.  


Post # 14
28 posts
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Church in partners hometown

Im so so sorry for your loss. I’m sure you must have a million things going through your mind, but DON’T blame yourself, it was not your fault, its something no one could have done anything about.  Make sure if you need to, that you talk to someone about your feelings, and know that it is ok to feel everything and anything and that no one else can tell you how or what to feel. My thoughts are with you <3

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