- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Am I the only wife who spends every evening alone at home? DH is a programmer and can set his own schedule. because of crazy traffic during peak hours, he has chosen a late shift (like noon-8). His commute is around an hour on off peak hours so I totally get it (I mean, my commute is between 1-2hours depending on traffic). So I get up at 6am and get home around 6pm. i wake up and he is asleep and I come home to an empty house and I go to bed alone (although if he is home when I go to bed he does “tuck me in” :D). He gets home around 9pm but sometimes later so he goes to bed really late. Sometimes I fall asleep before he even gets home. I eat dinner alone, I watch TV alone, I do all chores alone. I spend most of my time home alone. It makes me pretty sad a lot of time. But at the same time I kind of enjoy alone time, just wish it wasnt so frequent. I do go to dinner with girl friends, meet friends at the gym, and I am getting my MBA at night so it is really only a few nights a week I come strait home after work and am home alone. but, it is still lonely. We really only see eachother on the weekends. And still, on the weekends I like to watch TV during downtime and he is on the other side of the house in his office working.
i mean, we do spend time together. we go on weekend getaways and group dates and date nights and things. but, we are never really just around each other doing daily things. plus, its lonely eating alone all the time. Yes, i have explained all of this to him which is why he takes me on weekend getaways, etc. It has been like this since we moved to the city (2 years) and Iknow it isnt going to change. I guess I just want to vent and maybe hear from other ladies in the same position.
I am sick right now and am taking care of myself and he isnt here at all to help me. He slept all up until he went to work. It would just be nice to be comforted whiel I am sick or have someone here to get me water or warm up my soup or whatever. you know, do husbandly things. Its like I live alone a lot of times….
When I told hiim that today, he said he didnt want to get sick since I am contagious and wants to stay clear of my germs. I mean, I get it. But I take care of him when he is sick. I “take the chance”, I guess i am just sad right now. I just feel lonely